Sometimes, you hear something absurd. A heartbroken girl, feeling hopeless, says, “I’ve given up on handsome guys; I’ll just marry a rich man in the future!”
It’s a common thought.
In social circles, any decent girl is often courted, flattered, or even offered a price by wealthy men.
These signals can lead naive girls astray.
They may think that a wealthy man is within reach and that they can become a rich man’s wife without much effort.
Not judge morally, not mock.
Let’s calculate the odds of this happening.
First, let’s analyze the actual situation.
Rich men are generally divided into the self-made rich, second-generation rich, nouveau riche, and wealthy elites.
In their pursuit of beautiful women, these four types of men tend to exhibit the following traits: the self-made rich are too cunning, the second-generation rich are too spendthrift, the nouveau riche are too vulgar, and the elites have too high standards.
It’s not easy to win them over.
1. Self-Made Rich
Self-made rich individuals have climbed up from the bottom and have seen countless deceptions and schemes. They are shrewd and cunning, and their manipulative nature is intimidating. They can see through the schemes of less savvy girls in just a few rounds. A few gifts and they’re done with you. Want to marry them? Dream on! It’s a pipe dream!
Most of the self-made rich individuals I know have not divorced. Their wives are still their first wives. Even if they play around with many girls outside, they won’t easily consider divorce.
- They built their empire with their wives and it’s unfair to divorce them now that they’ve succeeded.
- Divorce would mean giving up a significant portion of their wealth, which is not worth it.
- Marrying a young girl with nothing to offer is not beneficial and is unreliable.
- It’s hard for their parents and children to accept a divorce.
2. Second-Generation Rich
Second-generation rich individuals have been pampered since childhood and have abundant resources. They have more initiative when they grow up and make more rational choices.
Some of them play around.
For example, a second-generation rich I know has migrated with his family, is wealthy, has been married four times, has three kids, and is now married to a new woman who is pregnant while having another new woman on the side. His wife has to endure it silently because the prenuptial property has been notarized, and she won’t take a penny if they divorce.
Before writing this article, I asked a friend of mine in his early 20s. His father is a real estate tycoon in a first-tier city and spends money like water. The red packets he gives us contain three to four digits per person.
“Would you marry a very beautiful girl from a lower class, with average character and education?” I asked.
He replied without hesitation, “No, No, absolutely not.”
I asked why.
He said that most girls who think they are beautiful are too self-centered, selfish, lack empathy, and are seldom reasonable. Moreover, a woman who marries into wealth based on her looks is too utilitarian and undesirable.
So, who would he marry?
“Someone from a similar background, elegant, with wealth and influence. That way, I won’t worry about her being after my money, and she can help with my career.”
3. Nouveau Riche
Nouveau riche individuals are likely to marry beautiful women.
When they suddenly become rich, they are eager to prove themselves to the world: buy a luxury home, order a luxury car, divorce their wives, and marry a beautiful woman.
People like this marry whom?
A friend of mine summed it up: elites marry truly intelligent women; self-made rich individuals don’t divorce and don’t interfere with their first wives; second-generation rich individuals marry socialites, minor celebrities, or internet celebrities, and of course, they play around while marrying; nouveau riche individuals marry models or even lesser-known women, regardless of their background, as long as they have a good appearance.
Contrast this with a girl who has nothing but good looks. She may marry a rich man, but she is likely to be the last type.
You might say, “That’s fine; as long as he’s rich, who cares if he’s nouveau riche?”
Unfortunately, nouveau riche individuals are nouveau riche because they use money to satisfy their unlimited desires and long-standing inner void.
They keep buying, eating, playing, flirting, and sleeping around. You won’t be the first or the last. Before and after you, there will be a long line of women. Marriage becomes an endless Long March, where you have to constantly crawl on the ground, fend off enemies, and shoot down the pretty wild parties.
Is that fun?
You may think so, but I think it’s absolutely not fun.
Moreover, this kind of marriage carries more risks: their vulgarity, baldness, obesity, filthiness, unbridled debauchery and revelry, unrestrained rage and violence, and treating you as an object rather than a person. These will gradually reduce your sense of satisfaction to zero.
4. Elite
What about the elites?
Would they marry someone just because they are beautiful?
You’re dreaming.
A journalist once asked Bill Gates whether the smartest decision he made in his life was creating Microsoft or making large-scale charitable contributions.
He replied that it was neither; it was marrying the right person.
Bill Gates and Melinda Gates got married on January 1, 1994.
People thought Gates would marry a supermodel, but surprisingly, Melinda was very ordinary and not particularly beautiful. However, her intelligence impressed even Warren Buffett: “Bill really needs Melinda. Clearly, Bill is smart, but from a holistic perspective, Melinda is even smarter.”
What about Buffett?
Like Gates, he also believes that the most important decision in life is who you marry, not any investment.
Therefore, they are very cautious in choosing their wives.
They don’t consider whether you have enough looks to attract them. They consider whether you have enough wisdom to accompany them.
If you only have looks and nothing else, you won’t be able to communicate. When you talk, you will think he is convoluted and profound, and he will think you are ignorant and superficial.
How will you get along?
You won’t.
Second, from an economic perspective.
A beautiful woman marrying a rich man, literally speaking, is a long-term trade-off between looks and wealth.
So, let’s analyze this transaction.
In the marriage market, beautiful women are scarce, and every man wants to have one. Demand exceeds supply, making them a scarce resource. Consequently, when the demand for beautiful women is high, their value skyrockets, and many people wait and see.
But is this scarce resource suitable for long-term investment?
It depends on two scenarios.
If the woman has sustainable development resources, over time, she will yield greater returns, making it a very rational investment.
Alternatively, if the woman only has outstanding beauty and no additional value, she will depreciate and her value will diminish rapidly.
After the age of 30, beauty rapidly depreciates. By the time she is 40, her remaining value is minimal, and the holder will start to cut losses.
At this point, the only option is to sell everything. However, since marriage is a voluntary agreement between two parties, the one who initiates the divorce is in breach of the contract and must pay a hefty penalty.
A mistress, on the other hand, is in a more flexible lease agreement.
If they want to renew, they renew; if they want to terminate, they terminate.
So, wise and wealthy men choose to maintain mistresses, keep concubines, or even pay for one-night stands, rather than marry them.
There is a story from Wall Street.
A very beautiful blonde woman posted on a forum:
“I am 25 years old, extremely beautiful, elegant, and cultured. I want to marry a man who earns $500,000 a year. I’m not greedy; in New York, an annual income of $1 million is considered middle class, so my requirements are not high.”
After she posted her marriage requirements, there was a lot of attention.
A wealthy man replied to her:
“Madam, I am a businessman. There are two things I have to say. I meet all your requirements, but for me, marrying you would be a terrible decision.
What you’re suggesting is a simple transaction: Party A provides charming looks, and Party B provides corresponding wealth. It seems like a fair trade.
But here’s the problem: your beauty will fade, and my wealth won’t decrease for no reason. In fact, my income is likely to increase every year, while you are unlikely to become more beautiful with each passing year.
From an economic perspective, I am an appreciating asset, and you are a depreciating asset. Not only are you depreciating, but you are also rapidly depreciating. It may sound cruel, but for something that is rapidly depreciating, the wise choice is short-term leasing, not lifelong purchasing.
Anyone who earns over half a million dollars is not a fool. We will only date you, not marry you. By the way, becoming someone who earns half a million dollars is more hopeful than meeting a fool who earns half a million dollars.”
That’s right.
To become a better person, the most respectable way is to invest in yourself, not in marriage. Make yourself rich and become a scarce resource that doesn’t depreciate, and you will not only have plenty of buyers but also hold the upper hand in the transaction.