After getting married, do you regret it? Here’s how they answered.

25-year-old Lily, Full-time Mom

Do you regret getting married?

“I regret it quite a bit. I didn’t listen to my parents at that time, rushed into marriage, didn’t even ask for a dowry, and now I deeply regret it.”

Lily and her husband have been married for two years. She said, before marriage, the man took great care of her, cooking for her and making sure she never went hungry. But after marriage, everything changed. She ended up doing all the housework alone, with her husband ignoring the child and just waiting to be fed when he got home, not helping with chores and constantly criticizing her.

Lily said if she hadn’t been so impulsive back then and waited a bit longer to get married, things might have turned out differently.

27-year-old Kate, Married for 5 years

Do you regret getting married?

“Yes.”

Kate, 27, has been married to her husband for 5 years. Before marriage, whether at home or in front of her husband, she was treated like a princess. Her husband was generous with money and tried to fulfill all her wishes. But after marriage, she had to give up wearing high heels.

She revolved around the family, her husband, and the child, had no time to dress up or socialize with friends, and put all her energy into the home, hoping to have a brilliant life.

But her hopes for a better life shattered. After getting married, she had no job, stayed at home taking care of the child, sometimes had to ask her husband for money, and he was always displeased.

It was then that she realized marriage was another test for women. For her husband, she gave up her job and career, only to be met with disdain. Talking about these issues, she couldn’t help but feel bitter.

Eminent author once said, “Marriage is a walled city. Those outside want to get in, those inside want to get out.”

In real life, it’s true. Marriage has its ups and downs. Marrying the right person brings immense happiness, but choosing the wrong one leads to regret.

Undeniably, marriage has its beauty, but when it comes to daily life necessities, it brings more helplessness and bitterness. Sometimes, life presses us so hard we can’t breathe, and the breakdown of marriage adds insult to injury.

35-year-old Sarah, Very Regretful

Sarah, 35, has been married to the Smiths for over 10 years, facing inevitable family conflicts along the way.

Initially, her in-laws treated her well, but after giving birth to two daughters, their attitude changed drastically. Her mother-in-law thought not having a son meant the end of the family line and even criticized Sarah’s inability to bear a son.

Facing her mother-in-law’s complaints, Sarah felt aggrieved and full of grievances. She had complained to her husband before, hoping for his understanding, but to no avail. In the end, her husband remained indifferent.

Living in the Smiths’ home for so many years, Sarah had been doing her best and enduring grievances alone. For the sake of the children, she chose to endure.

She not only had to serve her husband but also her in-laws. Sometimes, she even had to wait until she returned home to wash the family’s clothes alone.

Sarah found it unbearable in the end and said, “Why does the family’s clothes have to wait for me to wash? I’m not a maid.”

Hearing this, her mother-in-law got angry and retorted, “You’ve been in our family for so many years, eating, wearing, and using what we provide. What’s wrong with doing some housework? Are you unwilling?”

Faced with her mother-in-law’s challenges, Sarah didn’t argue directly but complained to her husband, hoping for a bit of understanding. However, she later realized it was all in vain.

Her husband not only failed to empathize with her but directly said, “If you don’t want to wash, go back to your parents’ home.”

Heartbroken by her husband’s callousness, Sarah ran back to her parents’ home in tears.

These kinds of incidents were not isolated in the Smiths’ home. Since Sarah married into the family, she had never received respect from her in-laws, making her days incredibly tough.

Marriage is another test for a woman. Meeting the right person brings happiness, but encountering the wrong one turns marriage into torment.

Family is a responsibility and a commitment. It requires effort from both partners and contributions from the entire family. No one’s efforts should be taken for granted.

A happy family is the key to a bright future. Happy lives resemble each other, while unhappy lives come in various forms of unhappiness.

Every child is precious to their parents, so even daughters-in-law deserve respect and care after marriage, not to be treated as free maids.

A happy family requires joint efforts from everyone to make life increasingly better.