The ultimate manifestation of a man’s true love for someone: just one word

Shakespeare once said, “I admit there is nothing more painful than the punishment of love, and nothing more joyful than serving it.”

Such is love. When in a passionate romance, you wish you could stick together 24/7. When you’re arguing, one second you might wish to tear him apart, and the next second you might urgently want to cry, wondering how to piece him back together.

Loving someone is like eating at a dining table, you would actively pick up the food you like, rather than waiting for someone else to do it for you.

Being proactive is because of affection; not being proactive is because of indifference.

The ultimate manifestation of a man’s true love for someone is just two words, that is, being proactive.

“Proactive” in caring about your feelings

I remember my previous roommate, her boyfriend was a very proactive person.

Noticing that the roommate was feeling down, he would always actively ask her what happened;

He would vent about the recent troubles with the roommate, helping her vent her emotions;

Every time they had a disagreement, he would immediately give in, cheer up the roommate, and then ask why she was angry;

Every time before the roommate’s period, he would pay extra attention to her mood.

I’ve heard many men say, “If you don’t say it, how would I know?”

But actively asking and actively speaking are two different things. The candy you ask for and the candy someone gives you proactively taste different.

A person who truly loves you should be able to judge whether you are happy or not just by the tone of your voice, the movements of your hands, and a few glances.

This meticulousness also represents how much he understands you and how much time and thought he has spent on you.

Being proactive is because of sufficient understanding, and sufficient concern. People who have you in their hearts will always actively care about you, while those who don’t have you in their hearts will automatically ignore you.

“Proactive” in participating in your life

There is a saying, “Being proactive is the limit of my expression towards the things I love.”

A man who truly cares about you can’t control his heart, and without noticing, he runs to you.

I remember in “Reply 1998”, Kim Jung-hwan, although he seemed very cold, secretly paid attention to Deok-sun’s every move and tried every means to create time to be together.

In order to go to school with Deok-sun, he waited for her at the door for more than an hour every day;

When it suddenly rained, knowing she didn’t bring an umbrella, he delivered an umbrella to her in the middle of the night, but he got wet in the rain on his way home;

On a shaky bus, he couldn’t even stand steady, he proactively moved behind her to protect her.

A man who truly loves you, even if you are hundreds of kilometers apart, he will make time to be with you; a man who doesn’t love you, even if you live under the same roof, he doesn’t care what you are doing and doesn’t want to participate in your life at all.

Hayao Miyazaki said, “If you like someone, then you should take a few more steps towards them.”

A man who truly loves you, even if you stand still, he will rush towards you.

“Proactive” in planning your future together

When my sister got married, I asked her a question: “When did you decide to spend the rest of your life with your brother-in-law?”

She said, “It’s when I felt that I was in his future.”

I probably understand, my brother-in-law started planning early:

Calculate the distance from each other’s homes, determine the city they want to settle in in the future;

Study real estate, consider the future work of the two, the education of the children, and choose a specific area comprehensively;

Work hard, save money for the down payment, and only write my sister’s name on the property deed…..

I remember a popular saying, “I didn’t participate in your past, but I will accompany you for the rest of your future.”

We are all ordinary people, we can’t get too much support from our parents when buying a house, and our abilities are not outstanding.

A man who is willing to spend years of savings, a lot of time, and make efforts for a common home, must love you very much.

The most romantic thing is not “I love you”, but “You are in my future.”

Being proactive is the best adjective for love, it’s the man who loves you walking towards you step by step with enough courage and full of love.

When we meet a man who actively cares about us, participates in our life, and plans our future together, perhaps we have found the right person.

If you haven’t met him yet, I hope you can always believe that “there is always someone in this world waiting for you, no matter when, no matter where you are, anyway, you know, there is always such a person.”