“Everything has its nemesis, and people are no exception. When I see my loved one, I back down.”
When people see their father, even if their father stands there without saying a word, just one look from him can make their legs go weak.
It’s the respect and admiration for their father that makes some people react this way.
When a person meets their loved one, they also back down. It’s not because they are not good enough, but because they care too much about the other person.
There was a particularly capable female colleague in the department before, and many people called her a master.
No matter what kind of work, in the eyes of this female colleague, it was all particularly impressive. She could finish the work of many people in a day, and soon she was transferred to the headquarters to be the general manager.
Perhaps in the eyes of many people, such a capable colleague should also be adept in handling relationships.
In fact, when facing emotions, she was not as everyone imagined. She was a mess when it came to handling relationships.
Once this colleague walked up to me with her phone and said, “I’ve recently developed feelings for a man, but I don’t know how to chat with him. Can you teach me?”
Looking at the chat history, the words inside were nothing like her usual self, full of hesitation.
I told her, “You are already very outstanding, so you should be confident.”
But she told me that she felt unworthy of the other person and thought he was perfect while she was lacking in every way.
When people meet their loved ones, they often feel this way. Many times, it’s not because they are really inadequate, but because they care too much about the other person, which leads to feelings of inferiority.
No matter how outstanding they usually are, when they meet their loved one, they always back down, always feeling inadequate and developing a sense of inferiority.
I have a relative who is truly a heavy drinker, drinking wherever he goes and passing out wherever he ends up.
Every time we gathered to drink, when his parents called, he would yell at the phone, telling his parents that he wanted to drink more and not to interfere.
But this year, he got married, and he changed completely.
During the Lunar New Year, a few relatives gathered to drink. Halfway through, his wife called, and upon hearing her voice, he soon told the friends and family that he had to go back.
A person who wouldn’t listen to his parents over the phone, was actually summoned by his wife with just one phone call.
Everyone teased, “Getting married changes a person. You’ve become obedient and well-behaved!”
He smiled and replied, “If I don’t go back now, I’ll be scolded. She’s waiting for me at home.”
A person can get angry with their parents but dare not get angry with their loved one. Sometimes it’s because they fear losing their loved one, and sometimes it’s because they fear hurting their loved one.
While our parents who raised us are important, when we know our lover is waiting at home, we always want to run to their side. When we see our loved one getting angry, the worst doubts arise in our hearts—is he/she going to divorce me? So, we always back down in front of our loved ones.
I once saw a movie.
The male protagonist in this movie is a playboy, not only does he not listen to his parents at home, but he also likes to fight outside.
It seems that nothing can daunt him, and it seems that he fears no one.
Later, he met a girlfriend through a friend’s introduction. A formerly carefree young man, he often acted submissive in front of his girlfriend. Perhaps he had fought many people before, but he dared not lay a hand on his girlfriend.
Once, he had a quarrel with his girlfriend and ended up getting drunk alone in a dark corner, murmuring to himself, “Why are you treating me like this? I’m afraid of losing you. In this world, I consider you the most important person!” as he cried.
It’s said that real men don’t easily shed tears, but after meeting their loved one, it’s easy to be moved. Even a tough man will shed tears.
A person who doesn’t yield to others’ threats or intimidation, becomes submissive in front of his girlfriend. In front of this person, he can lose his self-respect, even lose face, and even risk his life, considering his loved one so important.
In this world, if a person is unwilling to change for you, then no matter what you do, this person won’t change. But if a person is willing to do anything for you, then no matter what you say, in their eyes, it’s right.
Because you are their loved one, they are willing to bow down to you, willing to back down for you. For the sake of pursuing you, they can present themselves with grace to attract you, and they can also be submissive to keep you, making you feel like they are not even worthy of you.
If someone says there are still people in this world who haven’t changed, it must be that they haven’t met their loved one. If there’s someone in this world who has never backed down in front of anyone, it can only mean that they haven’t met their nemesis yet.
The people who make us back down are often the ones we love the most. The people we love the most often hurt us the most, and make us feel that they are extremely important. In front of them, we are willing to do anything. Even a dignified man or a tough woman can back down because of their loved one.
Just as the saying goes, “I’m willing to face the whole world as an enemy, but when I look into your eyes, I’m willing to submit to you.”
Loving someone can bring out our strongest side, as well as let others see our submissive side.