Experiencing betrayal in a relationship, the hardest part left behind is not healing the trauma, but resolving the internal conflicts.

Time is a great remedy for healing wounds, but for some internal conflicts, time seems powerless. Instead, as time passes, many internal conflicts become more entrenched and turn into deadlocks.

Facing betrayal in a relationship is difficult to truly come to terms with. The more you try to find closure, the more entangled you become. The more you try to justify things to yourself, the harder it is to resist, because you know you can numb yourself temporarily, but you can never truly deceive yourself.

In marriage and extramarital affairs, the person who betrays you, after spending so many years together, going through many challenges, building deep feelings, but why can someone outside the marriage easily shatter the relationship you’ve built for so many years…

This kind of question, once you think about it, breaks your heart without a trace.

Relationships stem from spending time together—without spending time together, there would be no emotions. The depth of emotions depends on the length of time spent together, but why, under betrayal, can the short time spent with someone outside the marriage outweigh the many years of being together; the sincerity of thousands of words loses to a few insincere words…

This is not a matter of acceptance, but a fundamental issue that cannot be understood.

Actually, what truly breaks one’s heart and causes despair is not the betrayal itself, but the conclusions drawn after interpreting the betrayal, conclusions that you cannot find closure with but must face.

Eventually, you will understand that it’s not the fault of the emotions, but the fault of the other person—simply the other person’s betrayal, not cherishing what they had, succumbing to their selfish desires, causing you to face this pain and entanglement.

Many say that relationships are complicated; in reality, relationships are very pure; it’s people and human nature that are complicated and ever-changing, not emotions:

“If life were like the first time we met, why would autumn winds bring sorrow to the painted fan? Changing the hearts of old friends casually, one could say that the hearts of old friends are fickle.”

Throughout history, the ocean is vast, hard to draw water from, and since ancient times, too much emotion has left only lingering regrets.

Facing betrayal in a relationship, looking at it from a different perspective, it simply allows us to better understand human nature. Of course, behind this understanding, the cost is often high, maybe a lifetime of pain, maybe a lifetime of entanglement; a broken family, the end of happiness.

However, such is life, no matter what we go through, no matter if it’s our fault or not, there are always unexpected things that follow, and you will slowly understand that we cannot control our destiny, but what we can control is how we save ourselves when fate makes it difficult—this process is spiritual practice.

Those who have reached the pinnacle of spiritual practice are like Buddha; only Buddha can truly understand the cycle of life and death.

We are just ordinary beings struggling and persisting, probably unable to elevate ourselves to gods in this lifetime, but everyone has their own spiritual practice, their own destined tribulations.

Betrayal in a relationship will undoubtedly cause us pain, but those who have experienced betrayal in a relationship will eventually learn to be brave and strong—all the trials and tribulations in the world are not meant to create unsolvable problems for us, but to help us overcome obstacles in life and move forward step by step.

Facing betrayal in a relationship, finding closure is overcoming a tribulation, self-improvement, and overcoming obstacles.

So, can years of dedication really be overshadowed by a few sweet words? Of course not.

The solution to the problem lies with the other person, who simply doesn’t appreciate or understand genuine feelings. Betrayal is their fault, and since it’s their fault, what does it have to do with you?

You are upright and have a clear conscience, right…

The mistake was made by someone else, why torment yourself and pay the price for someone else’s mistake.

I offer you delicacies, but you insist on eating something unpleasant, not because the unpleasant food is better than the delicacies, but because your taste is peculiar.