When it comes to older husbands and younger wives, I’m sure everyone has seen it all before. In love, we can’t measure happiness by age; as long as two people love each other, that’s the greatest happiness.

Regarding the love between older husbands and younger wives, everyone might have different opinions. But why do these marriages often end in tragedy? These three “embarrassments” explain it all.

23-year-old Emily, Lifestyle Issues

As Fei Shi Te once said, “True and lasting love must be based on mutual respect.”

My husband and I met through friends, and he’s 10 years older than me. At first, I was hesitant about our age difference, but his gentle and meticulous nature won me over.

We got married less than six months into our relationship, which might be the craziest thing I’ve ever done.

After getting married, I thought our marriage would be extremely happy, but my husband’s attitude towards me changed drastically.

I’m a lively person who loves to have fun, while he’s more reserved. I’d often invite friends over, but he couldn’t accept my behavior, leading to huge fights between us.

Now, I hardly interact with my friends anymore. I don’t want to lose my friends because of my marriage, so our relationship has become awkward.

Although I’m married, I don’t want my marriage to become a prison. I don’t want to worry about daily life, and I hope my husband can understand me. I thought marrying an older man would make him more mature and understanding, but it seems that’s not always the case.

Maybe many people will think I’m selfish, but I believe mutual respect is the premise of a happy marriage. I can work together with him to build a happy family, but I don’t want to fight over trivial things.

If marriage is just about maintaining a living, then I think it’s not worth wasting time. I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong; maybe I just made the wrong choice from the start, leading to our current situation.

30-year-old Sarah, Influence of Three Views

As Moloya once said, “In a happy marriage, each person should respect the other’s interests and hobbies.”

My husband and I have been married for five years, and he’s 15 years older than me. We were business partners before getting married, and he pursued me aggressively. Our relationship was great at first, but after having a child, our conflicts escalated.

He thinks I should give up my career and focus on the family, but I believe women should have their own careers. We’ve had huge fights over this, and now we hardly talk to each other.

I feel like our communication has broken down, and I don’t know how to convince him. If two people can’t even communicate, then their relationship is just torture for me.

Three views not aligning will indeed cause huge problems for our relationship. If I had to choose again, I might not choose him.

40-year-old Sarah, Strong Sense of Loneliness

As Roland once said, “Without deep love, life is just a waste.”

My husband and I have been married for 20 years, and he’s 15 years older than me. When we first fell in love, I didn’t think our age difference was a problem. After getting married, our life was happy, and now our kids are in college, so we don’t have to worry about them anymore.

However, as I’ve grown older, I’ve started to feel lonely. My husband’s health issues have led to frequent hospitalizations, and I’m exhausted from taking care of him. Sometimes, I’m alone with no one to talk to, and I thought I could enjoy my later years, but life is still very difficult.

My husband and I still have a good relationship, but the pressure of reality has affected our emotions. Now, my only hope is that he can stay healthy, giving me some peace of mind. As people age, they need a sense of security, and inner loneliness can’t be expressed in words.

In real life, everyone understands love differently, and love is not about who’s right or wrong. Love has nothing to do with age, but true love requires mutual respect and communication. If love is just about being selfish and only considering oneself, then it can’t bring happiness.

Older husband, younger wife marriages like ours might have huge gaps, but we need to make an effort to overcome them. Every marriage will face some embarrassment, and for older husbands and younger wives, the above three embarrassments will indeed have a huge impact on their emotional lives.

If you don’t prepare well before marriage, then don’t rush into choosing a partner, because you’re choosing what kind of life you want. After getting married, you need to learn how to manage your relationship well and not make mistakes due to temporary confusion.