I once received a letter from a friend who asked, “Is there any way to salvage a relationship when someone falls out of love and wants to leave?”

When I read that, I couldn’t help but feel sorry for him. I believe that someone who truly loves you won’t come up with all sorts of excuses to leave. It’s only someone who doesn’t love you that will sugarcoat their words while harboring dirty thoughts inside.

In the movie “Finding Mr. Right,” there’s a story about the excitement of new love. Despite having no achievements, no money, and no job, the protagonist’s wife was still willing to support him. But in the end, for the sake of his pride, he used the money she saved for an electric bike as a betrothal gift. He took her love for granted and mixed it with disdain.

It was only later that he realized it was all a dream. He went back to high school in his dream, pursued the school’s beauty he admired for so long, but after marriage, he found himself unhappy and even began to miss the kindness his dream wife showed him.

Love is sometimes like this. You don’t cherish the one who truly loves you, but you pamper the one who doesn’t love you. As the saying goes, those favored take it for granted, while the unattainable always stir up commotion.

The excitement of new love is the biggest obstacle in a relationship, but sometimes it’s also the ultimate test.

A person who can withstand the challenges of new love will see their relationship grow stronger. If someone can’t handle it, they will end up with nothing in the end.

What is the excitement of new love? It’s experiencing new things with an old flame, not repeating old things with a new flame. Many people think that when the passion fades, so does the excitement. But in reality, when the passion fades, that’s when your real journey begins. Before falling in love, during the honeymoon phase, we only see the good in each other. But as time goes by, we also see each other’s flaws.

The excitement of new love undeniably exists. When someone falls out of love, no matter how hard you try to hold on, you can’t make them change their mind. People who truly want to leave will have countless excuses, so there’s no need to force it.

When someone falls out of love and wants to leave, there are usually three signs.

Becoming More Distant

There’s a saying that you can’t hide your love for someone. Even if you’re not together, you’ll still think of each other. But if someone becomes more and more distant, it means they don’t hold you in their heart.

I once heard a story from a female fan who was in a long-distance relationship for two years. At the beginning, they would talk on the phone and video call every day, staying up late into the night. But gradually, she noticed her boyfriend becoming less attentive. He even stopped saying goodnight, a habit they used to have. That’s when she realized that maybe their feelings had faded.

Ultimately, after two years, they chose to break up, initiated by her boyfriend. She didn’t ask for a reason, and they both silently agreed not to contact each other again.

Someone who truly loves you will think of you unintentionally. Even when busy, they will make time for you. On the contrary, being distant will only push your love further away. Sometimes, we can feel whether the other person loves us or not. We forgive because we still deeply love them.

But remember, you can’t wake up someone pretending to be asleep. Someone becoming more distant will eventually leave you. So, there’s no need to force love.

Increasing Complaints

There’s a saying that nobody is perfect. When someone genuinely likes you, they won’t nitpick your flaws because they’re willing to change for you. But if someone doesn’t truly love you, they’ll find fault with you no matter how exceptional or perfect you are.

When someone complains more and more about you, it shows they’re starting to devalue the relationship. Someone who loves you will see your strengths and accept your weaknesses.

In front of someone who truly loves you, everything you do is adorable. They won’t nitpick because, as Sophie Marceau once said, “My body rejected this idea earlier than my mind. The body is the most honest, perhaps for more primitive reasons.”

In real life, someone who truly loves you will naturally gravitate towards you. When someone loves you, they can’t be without you. But if someone doesn’t love you, no matter how much you say or do, it won’t matter.

When someone tries every way to leave you, your relationship will deteriorate, and complaints will eventually ignite the spark of separation in your life.

Decreasing Care

In a relationship, caring for each other is normal. If you truly like someone, you’ll pay attention to their well-being, their life. A greeting, an action, a hug can often solve many problems.

When someone stops caring for you, even if you give your all, you won’t get anything in return. Decreasing care signifies a fading relationship.

Whether someone loves you or not is quite obvious. Someone who truly loves you will never want to see you hurt.

In love, remember, someone who genuinely loves you won’t want to leave. It’s only those who don’t love you that will find all sorts of reasons and excuses to walk away.