Once thought that having something is not easy, later found out that giving up is even harder.

Many people, faced with a love that has passed, are filled with reluctance and sadness. They only realize when they are about to lose it that the seemingly faded feelings have already penetrated deep into their bones.

Just like our left and right hands, we are used to their presence, not realizing their importance until a doctor asks which one to save in an accident—the left or the right hand. You realize both are crucial, and you don’t want to give up either.

Some relationships can be salvaged, but some, even if you are heartbroken to the point of near-death, have no room for redemption.

Whether couples or lovers, after doing these three things, there is basically no room for redemption!

Betrayal

No one can truly accept or forgive betrayal, whether physical or emotional.

Some may think as long as the body remains loyal, it’s enough. But in reality, the body follows the mind. Once the emotions fade, even if the body hasn’t betrayed yet, it’s only a matter of time.

At this point, the two are basically just going through the motions, and separation is only a matter of time.

Some may believe that as long as the heart is in the right place, physical loyalty is not as crucial. But these are just self-deceptions.

Just like the betrayal of Hai Tao in “Dwelling Narrowness,” Xiaobei thought he could forget, but he realized he couldn’t. Betrayal is betrayal, and he couldn’t accept Hai Tao’s actions anymore, even though they still loved each other.

Therefore, once one party betrays the other, it’s challenging to salvage the relationship. The wounds inflicted will be permanent, unable to heal.

And the two who separate because of this cannot be friends after breaking up. They can’t be enemies either because they once deeply loved each other, so they become the most familiar strangers.

Harming Family Members

In many families, despite differences with mothers-in-law or fathers-in-law, everyone tries to control themselves because they know that tearing the relationship apart will have serious consequences.

No one dares to put themselves and their loved one’s family members on the same scale. If faced with such a choice, most people would choose their own family.

If there are only occasional arguments, although unpleasant, it’s considered a minor issue that won’t cause fatal damage to the relationship.

But if someone really harms the other’s family members, such as physical violence, no matter how good the relationship was before, it will only lead to becoming strangers, or even enemies.

In anyone’s heart, family is the most important. Even if they are wrong, it’s not a reason to be physically attacked, especially one’s parents. No one would tolerate their parents being assaulted, even if it’s by their loved one.

The reasons for the breakdown of a marriage are many, but family issues like these are the most common.

Even between spouses, if it’s a couple who are not yet married, once one harms the other’s family, everyone will surely cut ties promptly and end the relationship.

Crossing the Line

Everyone has an emotional bottom line, setting a standard for the shortcomings or mistakes of the closest person. If it crosses that line, no matter how reluctant, everyone will choose to let go, with no room for redemption.

In the process of being together, everyone knows where their loved one’s bottom line is. If you knowingly cross it, it’s a test. If there’s no reaction, they will push the boundaries further.

It also shows that in the other person’s mind, you are not as important as you think, allowing them to act recklessly.

Some people have no boundaries when dealing with relationship issues. After forgiving and being tolerant repeatedly, they don’t receive gratitude but rather more audacity. They will only do things that harm themselves in the future.

Therefore, in most marriages or relationships, everyone sets boundaries. Once these boundaries are crossed, they will leave without hesitation, with no room for redemption.

Love becomes precious only when it’s gone. Many people fail to cherish what they have until they lose it. What’s most familiar is often the most valuable.

That’s how people are—they don’t appreciate what they have until it’s gone, regretting it later. Many people make this mistake in love.

Always be aware of your feelings. Not every apology can be met with forgiveness, and not every attempt to salvage will have a happy ending.