In relationships, many people ask themselves two questions. One is whether they truly love the other person, and the other is whether the other person truly has feelings for them.

Determining whether or not we love someone is generally easier for us to figure out, as we can see it clearly in our hearts. However, when it comes to whether someone loves us, especially when we’re in love and hope the other person likes us, we often can’t tell. As they say, when we like someone, we often lose our rationality and even deceive ourselves.

At that time, instead of being able to clearly discern the truth, we only hope that our beliefs are true, that the other person loves us. We’ll look for all kinds of clues to prove our thoughts are right.

Yes, love always tends to confuse us, but behind this confusion, as long as we can keep a bit of rationality, we can clearly see the truth.

Loving and being loved, as long as we calm down, don’t deceive ourselves, and check our feelings, everything will often become clear.

Always Feeling Secure, It’s True Love

There are always some people who, though they rarely say “I love you,” show their affection through their actions.

In their behavior, it’s clear that they treat us in a special way, keep their distance from other opposite-sex friends, show us favoritism, always stand by our side, and are reluctant to see us wronged.

Moreover, they always remember what we say, show concern for us, and whenever their eyes are on us, it’s all about us. When they look at us, their eyes are full of affection.

When we meet someone like this, who already shows their love for us through their actions, we won’t doubt their feelings. Even if they don’t reply to our messages promptly, we won’t feel neglected; we’ll trust that they are busy.

Their favoritism and trust make us feel secure. There’s no need to doubt; they truly love us and genuinely want to be with us.

It’s because they give us so much that our feelings are so strong, and we don’t doubt their affection at all.

Feeling Neither Loved Nor Unloved, Just Ambiguity

People often say that someone is sometimes very enthusiastic about us, and at other times, very indifferent.

Every time we feel that the other person loves us, just when we start to have feelings for them, they disappear, as if they had never shown affection or interest in us. Every time we want to give up, they reappear, as if nothing had happened, and continue to show enthusiasm.

This kind of hot-and-cold behavior, sometimes seeming very fond of us and then seeming like a different person, is certainly not genuine love when the other person has never clearly expressed their feelings or done something real. Their affection can’t be real.

In reality, not everyone only gets close to someone they truly like. When they get bored, they might tease someone, even if they don’t really like them.

With such ambiguous affection, when we don’t feel the other person’s sincerity, we just need to manage our emotions and not take it too seriously.

People who only want to keep things ambiguous may one day want to get serious, but more often than not, one day, they will just leave and go to someone else.

If We Feel No Love, Then It’s Not Love

If someone never takes the initiative to reach out to us, and every time we message them, they remain very cold, as if they don’t want us near them and find us annoying, then it’s pretty clear they don’t love us.

If we feel like someone is interested in us, they might not actually be interested; we might just be overthinking it. If we don’t feel someone’s affection, then in their heart, we truly have no place.

When it comes to love, when someone truly loves us, they won’t be indifferent and do nothing. Even if they are reserved and shy, they will definitely express themselves in some way and respond warmly when we reach out to them, instead of ignoring us.

So, when we don’t feel anything, we don’t have to constantly make excuses for them or think that just because they smiled at us once, helped us out once, or had a few conversations with us, it’s evidence of their love for us.

If we need to convince ourselves, it’s already clear that they haven’t made us believe.

Whether someone loves us or not, we don’t always need to ask others; we just need to ask our own hearts. Words might deceive us, but our inner feelings won’t lie.

That’s how love is. Someone who says “I love you” all the time and promises to never leave you might not truly love you, while someone who treasures us with their actions and doesn’t express love might actually love us deeply.

Regardless of which, after years of life, everything has already left an impression on our hearts.

When someone loves us, we need to treat them well and not let them down. As for someone who doesn’t truly love us, we don’t need to be delusional and waste too much time on them; we should stop in time.

Love and being loved only have meaning when they happen at the same time.