People always have some secrets, even in the closest relationship like marriage, there may be some unknown secrets.

Some secrets are harmless and won’t affect the relationship, but once revealed, some secrets could potentially affect the family. Therefore, those who have secrets choose to bury them deep in their hearts.

Once someone has a secret, they will change, both in behavior and attitude. If a woman has these little secrets in her heart during marriage, it can be seen from her actions.

Disdain for You

Every relationship encounters a bottleneck. During that time, you may no longer be as sweet as before and sometimes even grow tired of each other.

During your sweet moments, she is exceptionally pleased with you in every aspect, feeling that you are the perfect husband in the world. But when she disdains you, she will feel that you are not good in any way.

It’s easy to tell when a woman disdains you. She will refuse intimacy with you, subconsciously avoid you, no longer praise you as before, and sometimes even unreasonably pick on your faults. The admiration and affection in her eyes will be replaced by indifference.

The intense love from youth may end up with growing tired of each other. This may not be because of lack of love, but rather, marriage has worn away the passion between you. Women pursue romance and passion, and men should not neglect her due to being busy.

As long as you can handle your relationship, your marriage can still go on in a plain and steady manner.

Unable to Forget an Ex

Everyone has a memorable past. Some people can handle their past relationships and events well, while others are always reluctant to let go of the past, leading to more serious mistakes.

When Jenny was in college, she had a very close boyfriend for three years, but they eventually broke up due to the pressure of a long-distance relationship.

Later, Jenny married a local man arranged by her family. The man treated her well and was very considerate, meeting all of Jenny’s requests. The things you can’t have are often the best. Jenny always had her ex-boyfriend in her mind, so she always neglected her family.

After being married for a long time, she has never made any contributions to the family. Even so, her husband has never blamed her.

Later, the ex-boyfriend contacted her, and they remained in an ambiguous state. Several times, Jenny falsely claimed business trips to meet her ex-boyfriend in another city. Every time she returned home, she would cling to her phone.

Ignoring her husband and happily smiling at a cold phone is the most obvious sign of a woman cheating.

Her husband finally found out about this. Jenny thought she could leave the family, but her husband was unwilling to divorce, her parents disagreed, and the ex-boyfriend did not want to be with a divorced woman. This matter eventually came to nothing.

In the end, Jenny not only did not find the happiness she wanted, but also lost her dignity.

Why do people always cling to things that were never meant for them? People should live in the present and enjoy what they have now. Being immersed in the past, one day the things around you will also leave.

Overly Supporting Her Family

One mistake that most women make is unconditionally supporting their own family, which may seem filial but often brings irreconcilable conflicts to the family.

After getting married, Lily’s younger brother was getting married. Under the earnest pleas from her family, Lily decided to use half of the family’s expenses to help her family first.

She thought her brother would soon pay her back, but they kept delaying. Lily started feeling guilty in front of her husband and began to avoid topics related to savings and expenses. Her husband found it very strange. He accidentally found out about Lily’s support for her brother and flew into a rage, accusing Lily of not understanding right from wrong.

Lily, on the other hand, felt she had done nothing wrong and felt wronged. They argued fiercely and even reached the point of divorce.

A daughter who is married is like water poured out. It’s okay to support your family, but you must do so within your means. You already have your own small family, and everything should prioritize the existing family. If you can’t take care of your own family, how can you support your family?

Moreover, before doing this, you must seek your husband’s consent and discuss it with him. After all, the money is not just yours; it’s the hard-earned money of both of you.

When a woman has secrets in her heart, her behavior cannot hide it. Everyone has some secrets, some harmless, while others, once revealed, can cause family disputes.

The most important thing is to be happy. As a man, there are some things that you don’t need to delve into. Just know it in your heart.