Some guys seem to first put you on a pedestal then drop you to the ground. When breaking up, they wash their hands clean and blame everything on you. Many girls have tasted the bitterness of such love.

So this article dissecting how these scumbags use 3 tactics to make girls fall step-by-step is a must-read for all girls!

Step 1: Butter Up Trap

They are extremely attentive and passionate at first, making you feel loved and special. “I haven’t felt this way for a long time / You’re different from other girls I met / I want to marry you.” One second they put on a facade of deep love, the next they head straight for their goal.

So listen less with your ears and think more when dating! If a guy flatters you into ecstasy at first, don’t fall for it yet. Use your brain and think what has he actually done for you? A guy who wants you to sign an unfair prenup before marrying you, how deep is his love really? Women must jump out of being moved by little feelings and focus on the big picture—this ability is so important.

Of course we can take all their ‘deep affection’ at face value. If he acts like this then we’ll accept it, but keep a clear mind!

Step 2: Heartache Trap

After establishing his image, the next step is to overturn it to cause contrast and emotionally manipulate you. Their killer move is: Reveal inner weaknesses to increase your sympathy.

They typically sell you a sob story of loneliness on top of their superior image. It’s like a seemingly successful, dazzling man showing you his helpless, lonely side—exposing vulnerability is just a brainwashing tactic before taking advantage of you when your maternal instinct overflows.

Think calmly—though he acts fragile, do you really fully understand his life? Has he fully let you into his life? He’s probably living carefreely and happily!

For example, how would an inexperienced young girl react upon meeting a mature man who has battled in society for years and seems able to solve any problem? Admiration! If this seemingly cold and capable man also cares for her, and suddenly one day reveals exhaustion and loneliness before her, saying “I’m so tired, no one understands my loneliness. Only with you do I feel relaxed and happy.” This exposed fragility instantly increases a woman’s sympathy, immediately triggering overflowing maternal instinct.

When a woman starts to ache for a man, that’s the beginning of falling in love. Overflowing maternal instinct is the beginning of her downfall.

Girls tend to inadvertently fall into this stage because she feels like she understands him best and is special to him.

Remember, a truly responsible man will not easily reveal his fragile side.

Step 3: Destroy Trap

After completing the first two steps and accumulating enough sympathy, many girls think they are in love, that they are his exception, and want to save him. So they easily fall into the third trap—the destroy trap.

In fact, from the beginning of the relationship, many guys constantly brainwash women, trying to destroy their original views on love, values, self-esteem, in order to control them. This brainwashing can even continue into marriage.

For example, they convince women with various reasons to listen to them, trust them. If the woman retorts, they pretend to show disappointment.

Then when the woman is afraid and compromises, worried that he is really upset, the scumbag will say “You’re always overthinking / My feelings for you have never changed / Why do you always wait until I’m angry before you’ll listen to me / You should know, I don’t want to scold you either, it hurts me too to do so…”

In fact, this is their usual tactic. Words like these easily make women forget his temper, even violence, effortlessly preventing further questioning from the woman.

Another example—he pretends to love you deeply when he doesn’t. He makes you feel no one loves you more than him, and only with him will you be happy.

He’ll be extremely mean one moment then doting the next, slowly brainwashing you into thinking even his bad treatment is a form of “love”.

Some guys constantly criticize you to lower your self-esteem. If you really lose yourself, doubting “Maybe I’m not good enough? I’m really not good enough?” Instantly feeling worthless and unconfident, then you have fallen into his trap. You’ll desperately try to prove that you are good, worthy of his love, able to meet his demands, constantly enduring and compromising, unknowingly over-investing beyond your own limits and level of love for him, eventually submitting to the emotional manipulator’s rules.

Even when breaking up, they push the blame onto you, avoiding the real issues, never communicating to resolve problems. They only whitewash, shirk responsibility. Only then do you suddenly realize this man never intended to treat you well from the start.

So what seems to fall from the skies may not be a prince but a heartless devil.

Every girl, if wanting to avoid harm in relationships, must at minimum know what she cannot accept and where her bottom line is. When you meet a very charming but terrible guy who keeps challenging your bottom line, you should filter him out quickly rather than bargain with him.

It’s like walking and stepping in poop—you don’t stop and ask the poop why it’s here, why it made you step on it, why it treated you like this. All you can do is rationally wipe your foot clean and keep walking. Next time pay more attention to avoid piles of poop, and circle far around them when you spot them.