Marriage means different things to different people. In reality, marriage is a lifelong choice for each of us. Choosing the right person is a blessing, while choosing the wrong one is a torment.

Marriage is not just about two people; it’s also about two families. For a woman, being accepted by a family is not easy. So, the quality of the family also determines a woman’s happiness.

Recently, a friend shared a story with me:

My husband and I met while traveling. We hit it off because of our similar personalities. After dating, we got married.

After two years of dating, we decided to get married. However, my father-in-law had a big problem with our marriage because I only had a middle school education, while my husband had a college degree. So, my father-in-law was very cold towards me.

After marriage, I tried to win over my father-in-law, but no matter what I did, I couldn’t get his understanding.

After giving birth to my first child, my family status didn’t improve because it was a girl. My father-in-law was even more disappointed and didn’t even visit his granddaughter in the hospital.

Later, my husband wanted me to have a second child, considering his feelings. I agreed, but unfortunately, it was another girl. To be honest, that was a tough time.

My father-in-law is very traditional and thinks boys are better at carrying on the family name, so he kept encouraging us to have more children. In the end, I had three kids in five years, and luckily, the third one was a boy.

However, these five years have been extremely difficult for me. After giving birth, my body took a long time to recover, and I fell ill. I’ve also been treated unfairly in this family, and I hate my father-in-law the most. It’s because of his traditional thinking that I’ve suffered so much in my marriage.

After having kids, I not only had to take care of them but also had to serve my in-laws. My father-in-law thought that’s what daughters-in-law should do. For the sake of my kids, I chose to endure, but it’s been five years of suffering.

If I had to choose again, I wouldn’t have three kids.

Listening to her story, we can all feel a sense of sadness. The traditional thinking that boys are better than girls still exists. For a woman, marrying into a family is also choosing a type of marriage, so we should be cautious before getting married.

Marriage Can’t Be Taken Lightly

As Johnson said, “Those who marry for money are evil, and those who marry for love are foolish.”

A good marriage is about two people being compatible. Before marriage, we should not only consider whether we’re compatible but also the family situation, because a happy family is the foundation of a woman’s happiness. If we can’t even do that, the marriage won’t be happy.

Marriage is a big gamble. Many women suffer because they’re too blind to marriage, and eventually, they get hurt.

If you’re suffering in your marriage, you should cut your losses and not waste time with the wrong person. That’s the right choice.

The Other Family Is Also Important

Many people might think, “I’m marrying him, not his family, so as long as we’re happy, that’s all that matters.” But that’s a foolish thought.

A family’s acceptance of you also represents their attitude towards you.

Many women might think, “As long as I try hard, I’ll get their recognition.” But that’s a wrong thought.

A family’s values and education level are represented by their family atmosphere. Marrying into a good family is a woman’s greatest happiness.

As Socrates said, “A good marriage only brings happiness, while a bad marriage can make you a philosopher.”

For women, never be a slave to love. In love, we should also learn to recognize ourselves correctly. Only then will the emotions between two people become deeper.

True love is based on respect. Whether it’s between two people or two families, mutual respect is crucial. If a woman can’t even get basic respect in her marriage, it will only become a painful prison.

Love yourself, don’t be too humble, and let others love you. In a family, a woman should stand tall and be herself, not trying to impress anyone, and fight for her own happiness.