In his book “Kafka on the Shore,” Haruki Murakami wrote:

I believe that what we call fate is just the ultimate result of a person’s physiological, psychological, emotional, and character factors. I also believe that these factors can be changed by humans. No matter what, fate is in our own hands.

However, in real life, many people attribute their lives, whether good or bad, to fate.

When we see others doing well, we ignore their efforts and say it’s because they have good luck. When we’re not doing well, we won’t say it’s because of our laziness or bad character; instead, we say we have bad luck.

If everything can be attributed to fate, then we don’t need to make an effort or have dreams. We can just drift through life and wait for death.

But can we really do that? Of course not.

As Joseph Kayne said, “Habits form character, and character determines fate.”

Women with these habits are likely to be unhappy; don’t be foolish.

Blaming Fate for Life’s Misfortunes

Shakespeare said, “All our failures and successes are in ourselves, but we always blame fate.”

In life, some women never reflect on themselves and won’t try to fight against fate. Whenever they encounter setbacks, they say it’s all because of fate.

After marrying a man, they’ll say they’re unhappy because of their fate and can’t do anything about it.

If they fail to educate their children, they won’t reflect on their own methods; instead, they’ll say it’s all because of fate.

In their later years, if they’re unhappy, they’ll say it’s because of their bad fate and that they’ve wasted their lives.

They never think about their own problems; they’re just weak-willed and don’t know how to think deeply. They’ve formed a habit of shirking responsibility, thinking that if they blame everything on fate, they can accept their unhappy lives.

In fact, if you learn to change your mindset and habits, even if you think you have bad fate, you can still try to break free and fight against it. You’ll definitely have a different life.

Having a Pessimistic Attitude Towards Life

Fate is not accidental; it’s determined by your character.

Many times, we think that bad things happen to us, but in reality, they’re not necessarily bad. As the saying goes, “The Grand Duke of Qi lost his horse, but who knows it’s not a blessing in disguise?” The outcome of an event is determined by our own hands.

For example, if we lose a job, pessimistic people will think they’re really unlucky and don’t know how to make a living.

Optimistic people, on the other hand, will be full of hope and think that they can change their environment and have more possibilities in life.

They’re more willing to accept changes in life and won’t complain or blame their bad fate.

Women who always face problems with a pessimistic attitude are likely to make their lives even more miserable.

Being Petty and Calculative

Shakespeare said, “In the turmoil of fate, one’s character is revealed.”

A person’s character determines many things, and in relationships, character determines how much others like you.

For example, when interacting with others, we all like to be with people who are kind, generous, and not too calculative. This makes our relationships more comfortable and enjoyable.

We often say that people who love to laugh are usually lucky because they have a good character. When they encounter problems, others are willing to help them, and they’re more likely to overcome difficulties.

However, some women never understand this and always focus on their own interests.

They’re unwilling to take a loss and will calculate everything.

These petty and calculative women will have a very narrow outlook on life and won’t be able to experience happiness.

Heine said, “Fate is not from somewhere else; it grows in our own hearts.”

You think it’s unfair and that your life is tough, but it’s all because of your own habits.

Women who are unhappy, no matter how much you complain about your life, your luck, or your fate, these habits will never change your fate.

If you want to change your life and not be so unhappy, you need to change these habits first. Be more optimistic, face difficulties bravely, and learn to reflect on yourself instead of shirking responsibility. You’ll soon discover that your life will change significantly.

Franklin said, “Fate’s changes are like the moon’s phases, and the wise will not be affected.”

When life is tough, keep a optimistic attitude and bravely face it.

Having good habits is the key to a happy life.