You say you love someone, but words are not enough. You have to let the other person feel your love. But not everyone knows how to make the other person feel loved. Exerting your best efforts in the wrong place will not only have little effect, but may also be counterproductive and make the other party slowly become bored.

Therefore, if you want to use the right strength, you must first understand how people feel loved. There are differences between men and women on this issue.

Let’s talk about women first. As a woman, it’s not difficult for me to answer. Just compare your feelings with your own. Of course, we can only say a high probability, and exceptions cannot be ruled out.

A woman feels loved from the small things a man does for her.

Men often think that spending money on a woman can impress her the most, but they don’t know that a man who is careful, patient and even diligent in doing many small things for a woman can increase her favorability.

Because it is these small actions that make them feel cared about, taken care of, and respected, and these can make women feel safe in this relationship.

You will find that it is not necessarily the rich who win the beauty. The so-called poor boy is also capable of winning the heart of a good woman, because he knows how to make a woman feel loved in every detail of life.

If a man only knows how to make money to support the family, a woman will not be sure how much he loves her. Because the act of making money to support the family can come entirely from a man’s professionalism and sense of responsibility.

If a man makes a woman feel that she is not cared about, understood, or respected, no matter how good the financial conditions he provides, the woman will not be satisfied and may even be very angry.

But if a man can always hug a woman tenderly, caress her intimately, and take the initiative to bring tea and water…then the woman will be sure that she is loved, even if the man is never embarrassed to say it. like.

Compared with the “reality” that women need, men are more inclined to feel loved through spiritual feedback, such as women’s appreciation and gratitude to him.

A woman must not think that she can make him feel your full love by working hard and serving her man like an uncle. These are more likely to result in dependence. He doesn’t want to leave you because of dependence, not love.

When a man truly loves a woman and feels loved by her, he really doesn’t need her to do anything for him.

If you nag and complain while working, a man will not only think that you don’t love him, but also think that you hate or even look down on him. If things go on like this, he will have a desire to escape. If there are other women outside who throw themselves into his arms to make him feel warm and loved, it will be dangerous.

Men are very clear and sensitive about a woman’s attitude towards her. Whether you look at him with a droopy face all day long, or whether your eyes are full of appreciation and gratitude, is the intuitive source for him to judge whether you love him or not.

Therefore, if a smart woman wants to win the kindness of a man, she really does not need to work hard, let alone be able to master all kinds of martial arts. First learn to express your appreciation and affirmation to a man. When he does something for you, sincerely express your joy and gratitude.

Although everyone likes someone with superior conditions and willingness to give, what a man wants most for the woman he truly loves is the spiritual reward she gives.

Of course, those who get married for the sake of getting married and just want to find someone to live with won’t care too much about love or not. After all, you won’t care much about whether someone you don’t love loves you. In such a relationship between the sexes, how much you contribute to the family, how much work you do, and how much money you earn are more important. If you don’t talk about love, you will inevitably have to figure out who is suffering.

I remember reading a philosopher’s point of view, saying that men often develop love in the process of giving. It is not difficult to explain the interesting phenomenon:

A man originally has no feelings of love for a woman, but if by chance he does something for her and is greatly affirmed and appreciated by the woman, then the man’s affection for the woman will immediately increase greatly, and he will behave more favorably. If he is willing to work for her and goes back and forth like this, it is very likely that the man will really think that he has fallen in love with this woman.

So, smart woman, you know what to do, right?

When the person you love fulfills your wishes, no matter how big or small, please express your gratitude and praise sincerely.

No one wants their contributions to be taken for granted by others, and everyone wants their contributions to be noticed and appreciated, especially men.

Think about those women who praise their men in front of their friends. Do you think they are really just showing off?