In this day and age, many people have passed the suitable age for marriage but are still single. It’s not that they can’t meet the right person, but rather that they are overly picky.

Marriage is a big deal, as it affects your later life. Therefore, when looking for a partner, many people are very cautious. People often say they have standards and won’t settle. But, it’s also important to understand your own situation and not just scrutinize others with a critical eye.

There’s a colleague in the office, let’s call her Emily. She is a local and has always lived with her parents. Emily is sweet-looking, earns over four thousand a month, never thought about saving money, and spends all her income on clothes, food, and traveling.

She believes that girls don’t need to save money, and their goal should be to find a good husband. With this mindset, from the age of twenty-three to twenty-eight, she went on blind dates with different people, but unfortunately, after fifty or sixty dates, she is still single.

In reality, most of the time, the people she went on dates with quite liked her, it’s just that she wasn’t satisfied with them.

Her reasons for dissatisfaction were almost always that the other person was too tall, too short, from a poor family, too well-off, dressed in clothes she didn’t like, had different tastes, liked a celebrity she didn’t like, had an incomplete family, wasn’t a local, or wasn’t interesting enough.

In short, she always found one or several reasons to reject others. And none of the people she went on blind dates with met her again after the initial meeting.

But she never reflected on herself, just complained that the people introduced to her were unreliable, and she’s still waiting for someone who meets all her criteria.

But in this world, there’s never a perfect person, and there simply aren’t two people who are completely suitable for each other.

A person with good looks might have “odd quirks” that you can’t accept; a wealthy and successful person might not have much time to spend with you; a witty and humorous person might not be very sensitive or romantic…

If you expect to find nothing unsatisfactory in that person, in reality, that’s simply impossible.

When looking for a partner, it’s not about finding someone without a single flaw in your eyes. We should understand that what we’re really looking for is someone who is right for us in the big picture, and as for their minor flaws, we should be able to tolerate and understand them.

If you never see the big picture and always focus on nitpicking at small details, then you’ll definitely find it hard to find someone to be with. And even if you manage to find someone, being critical about everything in life will make it hard for you to be truly happy.

If you want to wear the crown, you must bear the weight. Think about it, we ourselves are not perfect at everything. So, why should we look at another person with a demanding eye?

Whether it’s finding a partner, being in a relationship, or marriage, if you want to enjoy someone’s strengths, you must learn to bear their weaknesses and accept that they have not-so-good aspects too.