Common Mistakes Women Make in Relationships

1. Fear of Men—Timid Girl—Always afraid of being seen through, or unwilling to appear in the presence of men. Such as not daring to sit beside the sports field, not daring to show femininity.

2. Stay-at-home—It’s hard to have a boyfriend if you stay at home all the time. Especially beware of being a “super-duper mobile stay-at-home”. This type of girl goes out but always alone, whether it’s going out, traveling, or eating. This makes it difficult to have a boyfriend. In addition, there are “temperamental stay-at-home” who like to lose their temper, lose friends, and gradually become “super-duper mobile stay-at-home”.

3. Pursuing—Pursuing is a common mistake for girls. Whenever criticized for not being proactive, they put extra effort into confessing and pursuing. Girls, you should proactively enhance your attractiveness, rather than pursuing like a man. Men’s testosterone levels are six times that of women, which explains why men usually instinctively look back when a beautiful woman walks by, and why there are more female third parties than male third parties. If you pursue, men will subconsciously think you are similar to them and that you also have high testosterone levels, triggering the “paternity uncertainty” switch in men’s minds. Moreover, some men may consider you a short-term partner when you confess, and in the future, when they break up with you, they can conveniently say, “You were the one who pursued me.” They cannot give you a future, and may even treat “intimacy” as “grace”.

4. Scumbag Magnet—Not knowing how to refuse, resulting in becoming a “scumbag magnet”. Why do many good girls end up as scumbag magnets? Because there are scumbags in the world, and they will always look for women to play with. There are also girls who naively believe that everyone is good. Some of these girls do not know how to reject others. So, when scumbags are rejected by girls who know how to refuse, they stick to those who don’t know how to reject. Ultimately, those who become scumbag magnets are the ones who do not know how to refuse and are naively kind. Also, remember that if you choose to be a selfless pushover, no good man will dare to touch you. Because at any time, in order to maintain your “good” image, you may unconsciously hurt the people closest to you.

5. Over-giving—“Scumbags” are raised by “saints”. Over-giving, also known as being a “saint”. They like to save scumbags and spoil them, enjoying the feeling of being a “saint” in the process. However, this excessive giving often spoils men, turning them into “passive victims” in the relationship. These “passive victims” not only fail to give, but also constantly nitpick your efforts. You treat them as boyfriends, but they treat you as their maid and mother.

6. Fantasy Offender—Being in love with your own imagination. After watching a romantic movie, you often imagine yourself in the story; after reading a novel, you imagine your boyfriend as the male lead. In real life, you may not even be holding hands with him, but in your mind, you have already had a long-lasting relationship with him multiple times.

7. Reverse Offender—Wanting to hide your true feelings? Loving someone, but behaving the opposite way. If you keep hiding your true feelings, you are a reverse offender, going against your own emotions. But why do you do this? Do you remember the time when you were seventeen or eighteen? Your parents wanted you to focus on studying, and society didn’t allow you to fall in love early. So, you controlled your feelings with your thoughts, and this self-suppression became a habit.

8. Stepping Stone—Being used without realizing it. You think you’ve found true love, but in reality, the other person just wants to use you for free intimacy.

9. Self-torture—Insisting on making love painful, otherwise, you create various tragedies deep into your bones.

10. Submissive—Being submissive in every situation, not knowing how to resist, resulting in losing your dignity and love.