Why won’t he marry me?

A friend of mine unknowingly became involved with a married man.

She found herself deeply involved after discovering his marital status. Despite his sweet talk and promises, she accepted the reality and continued the relationship.

She believed he truly loved her and would eventually divorce his wife to marry her. However, after three years and even having his child, he showed no intention of divorcing. He bluntly told her it was impossible to marry her.

He claimed to have a bad relationship with his wife and professed love for her, but she ended up with nothing but disappointment.

She couldn’t understand why and was unwilling to accept the truth.

In relationships, many people, like my friend, believe the person they are involved with loves them, but in the eyes of most men, mistresses are never that important.

Contempt from the Bottom of the Heart

Some women become mistresses for material gain, but many do it for love.

They are genuinely attracted to the person and want to be with them, even if they are aware of their existing family. They are willing to endure and share, refusing to give up.

While they may see themselves as enduring and selfless, many men don’t view them the same way.

To you, he may be your lover, but to him, you are just a mistress.

Outside of his family, he enjoys being with you and feeling your affection, but he also believes a sensible woman wouldn’t want to be a mistress.

Regardless of your reasons, willingly becoming his mistress and engaging in an extramarital affair, he doesn’t trust you and doesn’t see you as a good choice.

Pursuing Novelty, Not Love

Why do men have mistresses? Most of the time, it’s because the passion in their marriage has faded, and they seek excitement outside of it.

They still have feelings for their family, but it has turned into affection. When they express dissatisfaction with their marriage to you, it’s just a tactic to win your sympathy.

They know women are compassionate and easily moved by tales of unhappiness, which is just a means to keep you by their side and fulfill their desires.

In this process, he may say many sweet words and speak ill of his wife, but it’s all superficial and insincere.

As long as you don’t push too hard, he will indulge you. But if you demand too much, he will be ruthless.

Won’t Divorce Unless Unhappy

Some women may not expect a future with a married man, but most are genuinely committed and hope for marriage.

They may feel they are younger and more attractive than his wife and that he loves them more. But it’s all just a fantasy.

In most cases, as long as a man’s marriage is bearable or good, he won’t end it easily. He values stability and the mutual benefits of marriage.

Even if he has a relationship with you, over time, you may not necessarily have a better life than his wife.

So, dear women, it’s best not to get involved with married men.

Regardless of how exceptional he seems, it’s crucial to stay clear and not get involved. Even if you unknowingly fall for a married man, the moment you find out, you must step back without hesitation.

If someone deceives you once, they will do it again. There are plenty of good men in the world, so never get entangled with a married man.

If he truly expresses interest in you, wait for him to divorce. If you choose to be with him, make sure you are the only one, not someone who interferes with another’s relationship.