In a marriage, what is the foundation of the emotional bond between the husband and wife?

Yang Lan once said, “The strongest bond in a marriage is not children, nor is it money, but spiritual growth. Love is sometimes a form of loyalty.” I strongly agree with this statement. Children may temporarily save a marriage, but they can’t make the relationship harmonious in the long run. Money can only maintain the surface of a marriage, but it’s superficial.

What truly maintains a marriage is the spiritual growth of the couple.

Spiritual growth means that the couple shares the same perspective on many things, and they make joint decisions on all matters in their marriage. For example, after the age of 50, some couples may choose to sleep separately.

Some people think that if a couple sleeps separately, it’s because they no longer have feelings for each other. However, the reality is that sleeping separately after 50 can actually benefit their emotional harmony.

Reducing Unnecessary Disturbances

Each of us needs personal space, regardless of age. Some people think that after 50, couples should be very familiar with each other and understand each other’s personalities and habits, so they shouldn’t need personal space. But that’s not true.

In fact, couples still need to respect each other’s personal space, giving each other time to pursue their own interests and hobbies. They can read, watch TV, or simply relax in peace.

During these quiet moments, if they’re constantly disturbed by their partner, their emotional bond will definitely be affected. Even after 50, disturbances will still exist, but they’ll be less frequent.

Respecting each other’s interests and lifestyles can reduce conflicts and resentment, which is beneficial to their emotional harmony.

So, sleeping separately after 50 is a normal choice for couples.

Benefiting Physical Health

Montaigne said, “A happy marriage is a sweet union in life, filled with loyalty, faithfulness, and countless benefits and mutual obligations.”

Couples need to consider each other’s physical health, which is very important. As people age, their sleep quality deteriorates, and a good night’s sleep becomes a luxury.

For couples over 50, their sleep habits may diverge, causing disturbances to each other. This can affect their mental state and overall health. Sleeping separately can eliminate sleep disturbances.

By not disturbing each other during sleep, couples are showing respect and care for each other, allowing them to maintain good sleep habits, which is essential for their health.

Leaving Some Space for Emotions

Yang Jiang once said, “When the moon is full, it begins to wane; when the water is full, it overflows. Our love has reached its peak, and I don’t want it to overflow.”

Everything has a saturation point, including emotions. As the saying goes, “Too much of a good thing can be a bad thing.” If things become too intense, they can backfire.

Before, we might think that couples who sleep together after 50 must have a very good relationship, which is admirable.

However, every couple has their own way of handling their relationship. Some couples genuinely have a good relationship, so they choose to sleep together even after 50. Others may not have such a good relationship, but they’re just used to sleeping together and are afraid to bring it up.

In such cases, sleeping separately can actually benefit their emotional harmony.

For example, some couples may feel annoyed with each other after a long time together, and they may not even want to talk before sleep. This can affect their emotions and even lead to arguments.

In this situation, sleeping separately can reduce the time spent on conflicts and resentment.

Kant once said, “Family relationships are built on marriage, which is rooted in the natural harmony and mutual connection between the two sexes.”

When the emotional bond between the couple is harmonious, the entire family atmosphere improves, and life becomes happy and joyful.

All of this is related to the way the couple handles their relationship.

As a marriage reaches different stages, the emotional bond between the couple will naturally change. In this situation, it’s essential for the couple to maintain a comfortable state and give each other space to breathe.

Choosing to sleep separately is not because their emotional bond is weak, but because they want to give each other some freedom and space to recharge.