If a relationship or a person has caused you harm, usually, you find it hard to give up—this is the nature of emotions. But you have to realize that the source of your endless pain is actually this relationship, this feeling, and this person.
In dealing with emotional relationships, you need wisdom and insight. Often, you can’t see clearly as the one involved, even if you understand the reasoning. The fundamental issue is being stubborn and not realizing.
Many have heard stories of being hurt due to emotions. In most cases, letting go of such a relationship can lead to personal improvement. The depth of a relationship is related to its intimacy. The closer the relationship, the more it can harm you.
Whether a lover or a spouse, when they start hurting you emotionally, pay attention. Don’t think it’s a one-time thing. If someone chooses to hurt you emotionally, they are likely to continue doing so.
Betrayal can be forgiven, but continuous betrayal is not. Divorce is an option when someone hurts your feelings continuously. Most people struggle with facing divorce, hoping the other person will change for the better.
However, relationships require effort from both sides. Even if you try your best, if the other person is not willing to contribute, your efforts may be in vain. Striving too hard might end up hurting you more.
When there’s a disconnect in emotions or marriage, you can try to salvage it. Set boundaries and deadlines for yourself. Don’t stick to a futile situation indefinitely. Ask yourself when you should let go completely.
If you never ask yourself this question or never find an answer, you might not live your life fully. Your happiness shouldn’t solely depend on others.
When someone ignores your feelings or causes you pain, they become a source of hurt in your life. They hinder your happiness.
Many understand but struggle to let go, citing practical obstacles. It’s essential to align your actions with your understanding.
Firstly, accept that if you don’t end the relationship, the pain is inevitable. You can’t play the savior while neglecting yourself.
If you’re not married, ending a romantic relationship, no matter how painful, is necessary. If you’re married, especially with children, things get complicated. It’s subjective whether to end the relationship in such cases.
If you choose to continue, be prepared for emotional pain in marriage. Work on yourself to minimize the hurt. However, emotionally, you must detach and let go.
Alternatively, overcome obstacles and bravely choose to end the relationship. Take responsibility for your future without dwelling on past emotions or fearing loneliness.
Ultimately, it’s on you, not others. Relying on someone who can’t be relied upon will only lead you into more trouble.