Gilbert said, “Love is a platform where people of all kinds gather.”
On this platform, we all hope to find the most suitable person who loves us the most, and we also hope to be the happiest person.
However, even if we find someone who loves us, if we don’t know how to love and nurture this love, the two people will still have a hard time walking to the end and having a happy ending.
At that time, we will naturally feel pain, regret, and reluctance, and even keep thinking, “If only I had cherished him/her better, cherished this love better.”
We need to understand that a good love is not just about cherishing, but about knowing how to get along and nurture this feeling.
We often wonder, what is the best way to love?
Some people think that when we find love, we should give ourselves to it, no matter what.
Does giving ourselves to love without asking for anything in return mean we can get the same true love from the other person? If love becomes unbalanced, it’s hard to have a happy ending.
Like Zhang Ailing’s love for Hu Lan Cheng, “Loving someone will humble you to the dust, and then bloom into flowers.”
What will be the result of such love? Zhang Ailing’s love story gives us the best warning.
Some people think that when we find love, we should enjoy it and enjoy the other person’s giving. If the other person truly loves me, they will definitely be good to me, and I don’t need to ask for anything.
So, they become the superior one in love, relying on the other person’s love and doing whatever they want, even ignoring the other person’s giving and taking their kindness for granted.
They will think that the other person is willing to be good to them because they are good. Actually, it’s the opposite. In love, someone is willing to be good to you not because you are good, but because they are good and love you.
Those who only want to enjoy love and do nothing will eventually lose love and lose a true lover because of their selfishness.
Gay said, “The only gift love needs is love itself.”
The best way to love is to give and take in return.
Such love is something selfish people don’t understand, and it’s what selfless people hope for.
Ai Xiang said, “In the end, love is a reflection of one’s self-worth in someone else.”
When we love someone, we hope they will love us back; when we give love, we naturally hope the other person will reciprocate, even more than we give.
Love is like a seesaw.
When two people balance their love, their relationship will last longer, and they will naturally feel comfortable and happy.
But if the seesaw tilts too much and is hard to adjust, the situation between the two will get worse and worse, until one person gets tired, feels cold, and eventually gives up.
When our love and giving become a habit and lose value in the other person’s eyes, this love is over.
Originally, a happy couple becomes unhappy because they used the wrong way of loving, missing a good love, which is very regrettable.
Many people’s love is like this, not feeling important when they have it, but regretful when they lose it. But what’s the use? If we don’t know how to love, even if we get another chance, it will still be the same.
In happy loves, their relationships are definitely comfortable and happy, and their way of loving is definitely giving and taking in return.
It’s like during festivals, when a boy gives a girl a gift, if the girl only receives gifts and never gives anything back, eventually, the boy will lose hope, and his love will slowly fade away.
On the contrary, if the girl knows how to give and take in return, the boy’s heart will feel warm, and his giving will be rewarded, making this love last longer.
A good love is never one person giving, never a one-person show. Only when two people work together, give to each other, and nurture this love will it become more solid and able to resist life’s difficulties.
Isakovski also said, “Love is not one heart beating against another, but two hearts colliding like sparks.”
Such love is truly happy, strong, and magnificent.
Meeting someone you really like, and being liked by them, is a very happy and lucky thing.
Only a good way of loving is worthy of such luck.
In love, we should learn to give and take in return.
When we ask for something from the other person, we should also ask ourselves. When we blame the other person for not being good enough, we should also reflect on ourselves.
As Bialik said, “Love needs reasonable content, just like a fierce fire needs oil to maintain; love is the harmonious fusion of two similar natures in infinite feelings.”