The most common question I encounter is: Do you think he has feelings for me? Do you think he is serious about me? Do you think he loves me or not?

Regarding such a question, I will not look at the man’s various performances in detail, but first ask the woman: Are you satisfied with this relationship? If you are not satisfied, are you still willing to continue this kind of life? If you have to endure this for a lifetime, will you feel that you have not treated your life well when you are dying?

When it comes to dying, many people think it is unlucky. In fact, when we face confusion or dilemmas in life, we can figure it out by thinking about it before we die. If your life is short, what would you rather give up and grab in such a precious and limited time?

The reason why we spend our time and energy on meaningless things every day, or waste it on arguing and being sad, or worrying about things that may not happen, is because we always think that life is still very long, and there will be nothing left after tomorrow. There are endless tomorrows.

Everyone is responsible for the quality of their own life. If you feel that your current life state is not right, the responsibility lies entirely with you. Does it matter whether the man loves you or not? Even if he really, really loves you, is it useful?

Since you feel unhappy and unhappy in this relationship, it means that this man’s love is not suitable for you.

Many people get stuck in painful relationships, which in my opinion is self-torture. No one forces you to guard him! I ask you to live a good life. If you can’t live with it, you can’t bear the grievance. I asked you to break up, but I couldn’t bear to let you go, saying that I have feelings for you.

Is it rare to have feelings? If you raise a puppy, kitten, or even a plant, it will become very affectionate over time. If you have feelings for this person today, you can also develop feelings for another person tomorrow. So does he.

A man says he has feelings for you, but doesn’t want to let you go, and even says you are his true love, so what? ! He doesn’t know how to cherish and pay for true love, which further proves his selfishness and ruthlessness!

Even if a person truly loves you, but he has no ability to love at all, does not know how to contribute to his family, does not know how to care for his partner, and is completely unwilling to improve himself, is such a person’s true feelings useful?

Please make it clear that you are you and he is him. You are responsible for the quality of your life. Whether he loves you or not and whether he is willing to let you go has nothing to do with you.

The only thing he has to do with you is whether he has brought you a relationship that is relatively satisfactory to you, and whether he has a positive improvement effect on your life. If not, please give up decisively.

Don’t forget, every day you continue to struggle will cost you valuable opportunity costs. If the old is not gone and the new is not coming, if you cling to the old and refuse to let go, how do you know that there is no more suitable one in the future? Yes, the future is uncertain, but isn’t the unknown the hope and expectation of living?

The idea that feelings are supreme and true love is invincible is very harmful when applied to real life. As long as a man loves you, he becomes different? As long as he has feelings, he is good and worth paying for? Which man is emotionally invested in you, should you be equally emotionally invested in him? …Who taught you, silly girl.

Remember, no matter how madly a man loves you, first of all, he must be a reliable person to be worthy of your investment. Whether he is reliable or not is his own characteristic and has nothing to do with whether he loves you or not.

Everyone can have true love, but not every true love is worth cherishing!

In any aspect or matter, you must have a bottom line that you stick to, including your emotional life.

Blindly giving in without a bottom line can only further arouse the evil side of human nature that bullies and fears the weak. Some things are human nature and cannot be changed, but we can try to avoid triggering and encouraging it.

Moreover, let the other party clearly know where your bottom line is. He must understand that you will not accept everything for him. You are willing to give your true feelings, but you can only do so within a certain framework of dignity. No matter how much you love each other, you cannot trample on your bottom line.

Never be afraid of losing. Only by dating with the mentality of not being afraid of losing will you filter out those unworthy feelings, and make your efforts more valuable and more likely to gain happiness.

God has given us life, and our parents have worked hard to raise us. Everyone has unique beauty. We come to this world not to be criticized. No matter who he is, anyone who gives you more negative energy than positive energy should stay away.

Finally, the same sentence remains: Be responsible for the quality of your own life!