Someone asked: “If two people are together for a long time, will their relationship fade?”
Someone answered:
“What time can fade is feelings, what remains unchanged is sincerity. When you have nothing to say, find a topic.
If I don’t ask and you don’t tell, it’s equal to a misunderstanding.
I asked, but if you don’t tell me, it means there is a barrier.
I want to ask, you want to say, it is a tacit understanding.
I don’t ask, you want to say, it equals trust.
If you understand this, the longer the time goes by, the stronger the feelings will be. “
These seemingly simple sentences speak to the thoughts of countless people.
If I don’t ask and you don’t tell, it’s equal to a misunderstanding.
He politely refuses the confession of his admirer, but you misunderstand that he has found a new love and is having a secret meeting.
He is obsessed with work just to give you a more stable life, but you misunderstand that he has a career and forgets that there is still you.
He doesn’t want to talk much before going to bed because he wants you to have a good rest and not stay up late, but you misunderstand that he doesn’t love you anymore.
If you don’t ask, he won’t tell.
In this way, the two lost communication, had more misunderstandings, and built a wall of heart.
In this way, two people who loved each other finally became the most familiar strangers.
When they met again after many years, the misunderstanding was clarified, but time passed quietly, and they no longer cared about each other’s identity.
It was once unforgettable, but now it is nameless and insignificant.
I asked, but if you don’t tell me, it means there is a barrier
No matter how warm your heart is, it cannot withstand repeated indifference.
No matter how much you love, you can’t withstand being lost again and again.
As the saying goes, we are not afraid of being separated by the world, but we are afraid of our hearts being in the north and south.
In the emotional world, sometimes asking is a kind of caring——
If you say it, the other person will understand.
If you don’t say anything, the other party will forget it.
I want to ask, you want to say, it is a tacit understanding
Falling in love or breaking up is actually not difficult to figure out.
Sometimes it’s just my question, are you willing to give the answer.
Sometimes it’s just my doubts, are you willing to dispel them.
The same enthusiasm, the same frankness.
The same understands your heart, the same knows your thoughts.
How could it not be enviable?
Admittedly, I know that feeling like old friends at first sight is rare in the world.
But please believe that ordinary couples can also achieve such a tacit understanding in getting along day after day and in the training of daily necessities.
There was once an old man who had just recovered from a serious illness. When he talked about marriage, he said this:
“When I woke up at three o’clock in the night, I was thirsty and my wound hurt. I just had to poke it next to my wife and I would know that I needed to drink water at this time.
If I didn’t have a marriage built over decades, where would I get this expensive water at this time? “
yes!
There is a saying that goes well:
Those who have a tacit understanding understand each other and miss each other.
We understand each other. If I want to ask something, you will not fail to answer it.
We miss each other. If you want to say something, I will never fail to listen.
The world of love is like this. Those who should be warmed up are not left out, and those who should be concerned are not despised. How can it easily end and collapse?
I don’t ask, but you want to say it, which is equal to trust.
If a heart is put into practice:
No matter how many tests it takes, it won’t be a problem.
No matter how heavy the wind or rain is, it remains calm.
Those beautiful loves are actually very similar.
For one party -
I love you, so I believe in you.
I won’t tell you what to do, and I won’t call for punishment. I’ll give you time and space.
To the other party——
I love you, so I care about you.
I don’t hide anything, I don’t hide anything from you, I give you my whole heart and soul.
You know, guessing is fun when you are in love, but guessing in marriage is a disaster.
Love each other clearly and get along with each other clearly, so that there will be no extraneous problems, and only then can the years last long.
There is such a saying:
“Marriage is not only happiness, a festival, love between two people, life and death together, it is also a test and suffering.”
Emotions in the world are no exception——
Under the beautiful coat, hidden are the daily life and trivial matters of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea.
We once imagined that everything would go well, but we inevitably fell into stumbling blocks in reality.
We will be disappointed, annoyed, and scared.
We will also be unwilling to give up, unwilling to accept, and do not understand.
Why do we always get hurt despite being in love?
Why did the affectionate people become indignant?
Then start changing it from now on.
Treat each other as old friends, open your heart, have a good chat, and be a couple that I want to ask and you want to say; be a couple that I want to say even if you don’t ask.
May you have a good time over wine and talk, and let go of all the past grudges.
May you be companions in the mortal world and join hands for the rest of your life.