What’s your attitude towards marriage?

I’m sure different people will have different answers to this question.

For each of us, marriage is a gamble. For a man, marriage means responsibility and duty, while for a woman, it means dedication and sacrifice.

However, in today’s fast-paced era, many people’s marriages seem unhappy because, after getting married, they focus more on the daily necessities of life, and they’re busy making a living, so marriage becomes a challenge for them.

Recently, a friend sent me a letter, and this is what she wrote:

“I’ve been married for 10 years, and I feel like my marriage has become ‘single parent-style.’ Before we got married, our emotional connection was great.

However, after marriage, because of the daily necessities of life, I feel like our emotions have changed. Before, he was very attentive towards me.

After marriage, we often argued about daily life, and after having a child, our economic pressure increased. Later, due to the pressure of life, he could only work outside, leaving me to take care of our parents and child at home.

It’s actually very tiring to take care of the child alone, but we have to make compromises for the sake of living.

My husband only sends me living expenses every month and rarely comes home. Our child sometimes misses their father, and when there’s a parent-teacher conference, I have to attend it alone.

Now, our marriage is like this: he works to support the family, and I rarely see him throughout the year. Many times, I feel powerless without him by my side. Whenever someone asks me about my husband, I can’t help but cry.

I feel like this marriage status is not what I want, and during our child’s growth, the child’s father couldn’t provide companionship, which I think is a regret for her childhood. I’m worried about my child’s situation.

In real life, there may be many people who have experienced this kind of marriage. For us, a good marriage can bring growth, while a bad marriage can only be a torment.

So when we face marriage, we should remember these words to achieve happiness in the long run.

Marriage is Not Sacrifice

As Yang Chang once said, “Truly loving someone doesn’t necessarily mean having a marriage.”

Many people might think that getting married means sacrificing, although giving in marriage life is necessary. However, in reality, we shouldn’t sacrifice our own happiness to gain happiness in marriage.

A good marriage requires joint efforts from both parties. If we can’t understand the true meaning of marriage life, we’ll be the ones who get hurt in the end.

Emotions are pure and beautiful for us. When we deeply love someone, we should learn to consider each other. If we don’t have basic interactions in marriage life, our emotions will eventually become a torment.

When you sacrifice yourself, the emotions between you two will lose their original meaning. So if you take sacrifice as a prerequisite for love, your marriage will eventually become a torment.

Love is the Foundation of Marriage

“As long as love is there, happiness is there.”—— Yang Chang

Many people take on more responsibilities after getting married, so they might feel frustrated. When the pressure of life becomes overwhelming, they might not have the energy to love each other anymore.

Some people might think that the longer they’re together, the more they understand each other, so they don’t need to consider each other’s feelings.

However, this thinking is actually the most foolish, because when you want to maintain a long-term relationship, love should be the foundation.

In daily life, giving each other more care and attention will elevate your love. Love is the foundation of marriage, and only when you understand how to love each other will you have more interactions.

Marriage should be a place where two people grow together, not a hell where they torment each other.

In a relationship, each person will have their own views, but when we face emotions, we should be completely honest.

Sometimes we might feel extremely tired in a relationship, even feeling powerless. However, when we face emotions, we should learn to manage them.

Because a happy life requires joint efforts from both parties, if only one person is willing, the emotions will eventually become a torment and pain. So, love is the foundation of all happiness in marriage.