They say men are completely different before and after having children, right? So, what are the psychological changes they go through after becoming fathers?

1. Increased Sense of Responsibility

My friend Janice used to feel that her husband was immature during their dating days. Every time he came home to their tiny apartment, she had to cook for him while he lounged on the sofa playing games.

During holidays, she had to arrange gifts for both her husband and her own parents, but he didn’t seem to care.

Sometimes, when his buddies called for a get-together, he’d stay out late. Janice once asked herself, “How will he handle parenthood if this is how he behaves?”

Two years later, they had a child out of wedlock and then got married.

With the birth of their newborn, their home became more lively.

Janice said that during her postpartum recovery, her husband always made time outside of work to be with her and their child.

She also mentioned that since having a child, her husband spends less time socializing and always comes home early from work to spend time with their child.

2. Increased Warmth

Previously, Grace’s husband seemed unapproachable and rarely smiled, giving off a cold impression whenever they were out with friends.

People who didn’t know him thought he was a “Scrooge”. However, it was only after Grace had a child that she realized her husband was a warm-hearted person.

His transformation began after Grace gave birth to their child.

When their child turned one, Grace’s husband noticed that their child’s hair was growing fast. He was worried that their child might cry if taken to a salon, so he bought a hair clipper and started cutting their child’s hair himself.

From then on, he took charge of their child’s hairstyle.

After having a child, he actively interacted with other kids during gatherings, making them laugh and enjoying himself.

It’s amazing how becoming a father can bring out a rare smile from someone who was always aloof.

3. Increased Patience

Louise’s husband used to be impatient, always wanting things to happen quickly. Louise, on the other hand, was more laid-back, and their clashing personalities often led to arguments.

When the couple went out, Louise would take time picking out her favorite clothes and doing her makeup. Her husband would constantly urge her, “That’s enough. You look beautiful. My lady, you’ve been getting ready for half an hour. At this rate, we won’t make it to the movie theater.”

Regardless of the occasion, Louise was always rushing under her husband’s prodding, “Hurry up, don’t waste time.”

However, after having a child, Louise’s husband seemed less hurried. He would sit quietly and spend time with their child. When they went out, if Louise spent an hour dressing up, her husband would tell her to take her time and wear what she liked.

He would then play with their child while Louise got ready.

Louise said, “Gosh, even an impatient person can change after having a child. Looks like I need to have another one.” I burst into laughter upon hearing this.

Yes, having a child really changes men.

The birth of a child can transform a playful, solemn, and impatient man into a loving, responsible, and patient father. This is the best gift a father can give to their child.