When it comes to finding a partner, he really doesn’t take the initiative at all.

Nowadays, more and more voices are expressing that in matters of love and marriage, many men are quite passive.

They are unwilling to actively expand their social circles to find suitable partners. Even if someone introduces them to someone else, after exchanging contact information, they are not particularly enthusiastic. They always remain indifferent.

Or from the beginning, they are particularly aloof and not genuinely interested in continuing, or they may take the initiative a couple of times and then never do so again, as if they had never met.

In the general perception, men are supposed to be the ones to make the first move, while women are supposed to be more defensive, at least in the beginning.

However, with the changing times, men are finding it increasingly difficult to do so.

It seems a bit strange, but in reality, it’s quite normal.

Unable to Take Responsibility Until They Figure Themselves Out

This is a great era, diverse and progressive in every field.

Living in the present, everyone has more options and enjoys a richer life. However, at the same time, they also have to bear more responsibilities than ever before.

The previous generation didn’t have so many doubts about marriage and life. They just followed the norm, getting married when others did. But now, life is not that easy.

Especially for men in their twenties, with no established career and the constant worry about housing, the pressure they bear is immense.

In addition to the need to earn a living, they also start to ponder the purpose of marriage. Instead of just marrying anyone, they want to understand the meaning of life and marriage.

Faced with the heavy pressures of life, when they are not yet capable of supporting a family, and don’t understand the meaning of marriage, they tend to temporarily lose interest in getting married and are unwilling to take the initiative in this matter.

It’s not that they don’t want to get married, they just want to wait until they are confident and more mature.

Preferring the Simplicity of Being Single Over the Complications of Love

Single men may have never been in a relationship, but some have been through one or more.

For a man who has never been in love, he is used to being alone and feels content with his current life. He doesn’t want to disrupt this rhythm and take on the responsibilities of someone else’s life.

As for those who have experienced love but are now single, they may not necessarily enjoy the feeling. They might feel that being in love with someone requires too much compromise and understanding, which is tiring.

So, even though others may think they are getting older and should start dating, they feel they are still young and don’t need to rush into marriage.

Because they enjoy being alone, at least for now, they are not eager to take the initiative.

They are not ready to start a relationship with someone, or let someone enter their life.

Since this is their current state, they don’t care about others’ opinions. Even if someone arranges a blind date for them, they will just go through the motions.

Wanting Mutual Initiative, Not Just Their Own

There are also many men who are quite proactive when they first meet a woman.

However, after a few attempts, if they feel that the other person is not very enthusiastic and seems uninterested, they lose interest and choose to leave.

They are willing to take the initiative, but they also hope that their initiative will receive a positive response.

If there is no response and they can’t communicate well, it seems that they are not compatible. This feeling ultimately becomes too heartbreaking, and many people just can’t continue.

In this increasingly busy era, people are becoming less patient and less inclined to force things in relationships.

Living a good life is already not easy, and they don’t want to be the only ones making an effort. They hope for mutual appreciation and a relationship that doesn’t feel exhausting.

If they meet someone like that, they are willing to continue, but if not, they don’t care even if they lose the chance. There are plenty of people out there who are just as proactive as them.

In the minds of contemporary young people, especially as they grow older, many of them don’t have a strong desire for love or being loved, and they don’t feel it’s necessary.

Instead of feeling the need to be with someone, it’s becoming more casual.

No one wants to be overly proactive or accommodating, and everyone is just thinking about their own gains and losses.

Once they start weighing things and thinking only of themselves, it becomes very difficult to have a good relationship.

Regardless, being a bit more proactive in pursuing a relationship has always been necessary.

Even if sometimes they are disappointed, there are also times when they receive good responses.

Otherwise, if they feel they are being taken advantage of occasionally and become unwilling to take the initiative, no matter how much time passes, it will be difficult to bid farewell to being single, and they will remain alone.