“Marriage needs the bond of affection to become truly strong.” This is a quote from the famous French writer Alexandre Dumas.

Some people get married, have children, but end up divorcing and seeking their own happiness separately.

Some women are attracted to men who have been married before, thinking they are more mature, provide a sense of security, and have experience in maintaining a family.

However, women should realize that men who have been married before also have their own flaws, and marrying one doesn’t guarantee a happy future.

Sarah and her husband found their days increasingly difficult after marriage. Eating dinner together felt unbearable, making Sarah feel like an outsider.

Marriage should provide a sense of home, not oppression. But marrying a man who has been divorced before can create a sense of alienation, drastically different from expectations.

When you marry a man with a past marriage, remember: you will always be an outsider.

The ex-wife’s children may not accept you. Tom’s wife left him three years ago, and their divorce was the talk of the town. Despite Tom remarrying, his sons often defy their stepmother.

Sometimes the boys deliberately soil clean clothes or criticize their stepmother’s cooking, causing conflicts. Tom ends up giving in to his sons’ demands, leaving Sarah feeling like an outsider in their eyes.

A man who has been through a divorce may prioritize his children, seeing love differently. As men mature, they may value family over romantic love. Experience may make them more reserved in relationships.

Men scarred by past relationships may struggle to fully invest in new love. They may prioritize children’s demands, even if they are unreasonable.

Mothers-in-law may also target you due to their loyalty to their grandchildren. They may criticize you and create conflicts between you and your partner. Their loyalty to the previous daughter-in-law may lead them to view you as inferior.

As a stepmother, you must silently sacrifice. Your efforts may go unnoticed, and one mistake can lead to harsh judgment. Unlike biological mothers, stepmothers face scrutiny and are easily criticized.

Marrying a divorced man means constantly facing thankless tasks. After investing a lot, you may feel exhausted and unappreciated. Evaluate if the man is worth marrying after a period of observation and caution.