Emotional issues between son and daughter-in-law
In real life, many women not only worry about themselves but also about their children and even grandchildren. However, living like this will only make you more and more exhausted.
In marriage, women who worry too much are bound to have a hard time. These four things can totally be avoided.
Once said, “Couples are partners, they work together, and they create new life.” This also tells us the meaning of marriage.
It’s normal for family members to have conflicts and arguments. When a son gets married and starts his own family, parents should be more tolerant. Arguments between the young couple are also normal.
Sometimes, quarrels are a way for young people to adjust. Parents should not interfere too much. Let the children solve their own emotional problems. Parents should not worry too much. Only when children learn to solve family problems on their own will they understand responsibility better.
Recently, a friend shared her story with me:
“I am 56 years old this year, my children are all married and have their own careers. I usually take care of my grandchildren and do housework. Every family has its own troubles, and so does ours.
My son and daughter-in-law have been married for nearly two years. Their relationship was good at the beginning, but they started arguing frequently after having a child. This has been a headache for our family. Initially, I would always play the peacemaker, but my daughter-in-law felt that I favored my son, making it difficult for me to explain.
Since my daughter-in-law has married into our family, I will treat her like my own daughter. How could I favor my son? Therefore, I decided not to intervene in their relationship issues and let them solve it on their own. I don’t know if my approach is correct.”
In real life, many families face similar conflicts. Ignoring conflicts between son and daughter-in-law is the best attitude. It’s normal for the young couple to quarrel, and letting the children solve it themselves can resolve conflicts faster.
Education of grandchildren
Everyone cares about children’s education, but as a woman, you don’t need to worry too much about the younger generation’s problems. Learning to let go will make your life easier.
Many grandmothers keep worrying even after becoming grandmothers, but this behavior can lead to family conflicts.
The education of grandchildren should be left to your children. Parents should not interfere too much. Each generation has different ways of educating their children. Parents can provide support but should not interfere. Excessive interference will only lead to various conflicts between you and your children.
Do not restrict your husband’s freedom
Leo Tolstoy once said, “Husband and wife must respect each other, not tie each other up.”
Many women, after marriage, fear their husbands will change, so they are very cautious, monitor their whereabouts, and restrict their freedom. However, this approach can become the fuse of conflicts between you as a couple.
Each person is an independent individual. Even after marriage, we should focus on ourselves. Instead of worrying about whether your partner loves you, focus on improving yourself.
Only when you become better will you not be insecure. Love is freedom, not restraint. Learn to give each other space, and your partner will love you even more.
Love is like sand in your hand. The tighter you hold it, the faster it slips away. Only when we learn to let go will love elevate. The more you understand a man, the more he will love you.
Do not blame your in-laws
The mother-in-law issue may be encountered by every woman in marriage. As the saying goes, a married daughter is like water spilled out. In real life, a mother-in-law is not a mother.
Even after marriage, when you come to your husband’s family, you should be careful in your interactions with your in-laws.
When you have a disagreement with your parents, they may not take it to heart. However, if you have conflicts with your in-laws, they may leave a mark. Over time, your relationship will be greatly affected.
Therefore, in dealing with in-laws, we need to live in harmony to make it more beautiful and harmonious.
Women who worry too much are usually unhappy because they have too much to consider. When a woman is too anxious in marriage, her heart will become very restless, which will eventually affect the relationship between husband and wife.
Therefore, in married life, women need to learn to let go. Don’t worry too much about unnecessary things. Learning to let go will make your marriage life better because in a relationship, men want femininity, not motherly traits.