The feeling of liking someone is sweet but sour. Maybe you have already secretly expressed your love for him, and every time you imagine being with him, your heart is full of excitement. But in reality, you and him are just ordinary friends, and he doesn’t even know you exist.
“How to make the person you like like you too” is a question that every person who is in unrequited love wants to get the answer as quickly as possible.
Love is something that can heal people’s hearts, but it can also hurt them. Just like a shining glass, beautiful but fragile.
Instead of rushing to pursue the person you like, it is better to clarify these things before starting a relationship:
People seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. If you want a person to have a good impression of you and like you, it means that you must have certain characteristics that can make him feel relaxed, happy or excited. Otherwise, he will have an instinctive escape.
Generally speaking, what makes a person feel happy and excited comes from two aspects: one is a comfortable enough inner environment, and the other is external things that attract him.
In other words, when you satisfy these two points, you are almost close to him falling in love with you. So, how can we satisfy these two points?
1. A comfortable enough internal environment
№1 Satisfy vanity
If you can make him feel like he’s a special, unique person, he’ll be happy to fall in love with you as a thank you for discovering this.
If you want a man to like you, you must first make him like yourself when you are with him.
How to do this? Dale Carnegie has a very simple and crude method in his book “How to Win Friends and Influence People”:
“If you want people to like you, make them feel happy, act like they like you, be interested in their favorite topics, agree with their opinions, and praise them without hesitation.”
This approach may seem a bit flattering and flattering, but you need to know that many times it does work for people, especially men.
№2 Sympathy and empathy
The easiest way to make a person like you quickly is to stand on the same front with him and make him feel that you are the one who can understand him and understand him.
When you are chatting with boys, you can easily achieve this effect by inserting sentences expressing recognition, understanding and empathy from time to time.
For example, “Well, yeah, that’s right.” Or, use short sentences that express empathy, such as: “I understand how you feel,” “I can imagine,” or “If I were in your position, I would definitely… “
This kind of conversation will definitely deepen the relationship between you in a subtle way.
For example, the following conversation:
Man: I used to really like playing basketball. Watching my brothers running around on the court, I felt very energetic and energetic.
Woman: Uh-huh (nods) Yes.
Man: But as we get older, we have more and more things to do, less and less time, and less and less energy. It’s hard to play basketball without worries like before. .
Woman: I understand how you feel. Just like when we were in college, because we liked music, we could stay in the piano room all day long.
Man: It would be great if people could stay young forever.
Woman: Yes, that way we can always have enough energy to do the things we like.
Such an empathic conversation will definitely bring you closer to each other and make him enjoy talking to you even more.
In addition, check his FB if you have nothing to do, pay more attention to his life, and establish common interests and hobbies with him. It can also help you quickly gain his recognition and shorten the distance between you.
Experiments have proven that humans are subconsciously more interested in people who are similar to themselves.
2. External things that attract him
In addition to allowing the other person to feel relaxed and enjoy being with you, allowing the other person to be attracted by the charm you exude is also a necessary condition for the other person to like you.
Because if the other person is not interested in you, then no matter how long you get along, it will only be a “genderless relationship.”
How do you get the person you like to be interested in you? First of all, we must attract him enough in the first impression.
№1 First impression
In fact, the moment you meet him for the first time, your subconscious mind has already made a decision for you whether to continue with him or not. The reason why many people are unable to successfully leave the relationship is because they give the other person a bad first impression.
There is a particularly famous phenomenon in psychology called the first impression effect, also called the primacy effect, first time effect, or priority effect. It refers to the impact of the first impression formed by both parties on future relationships, that is, “preconceptions.” The effect brought about.
When you appear in front of others for the first time, your behavior and appearance will always leave the most vivid and solid impression on others, and will determine the future course of your relationship.
Therefore, it is particularly important to create a good first impression in front of the boy you like.
When you meet someone for the first time, in addition to dressing yourself beautifully, please show a bright smile to make yourself look as cute and approachable as possible.
You know, men prefer the gentle and approachable Xiaojiabiyu to the untouchable iceberg beauty.
When dealing with others, please try to be polite and calm. No matter how lively, naughty, and nonsensical you are in private, please don’t show this side unreservedly when you first meet a boy.
This will make people think you are immature and even a little frivolous.
By doing these things well and leaving a good first impression on boys, you can lay the foundation for boys to like you and lay the first step for you.
№2 arouses his desire
There are many kinds of desires for a person, and a man’s desire for a woman is often an indispensable “catalyst” for the generation of emotions.
“Desire to conquer”—such a powerful catalytic force.
If you want a man to have a desire to conquer you out of thin air, you have to use appropriate methods, such as “play hard to get”.
The best way to arouse a person’s desire is not to put the target naked in front of him, but to cover the target so that he cannot see through it.
Therefore, never openly show your love for him in front of a man. When you fully reveal your attitude, the other person will have a sense of “control” and will easily lose interest in you. A man’s desire to conquer begins to decrease the moment he has a crush on you.
When you continue to increase your sense of mystery and allow the other person to constantly speculate about you, your image in his mind will also have its own filter, and at the same time it will also drive his investment and contribution.
Love seems mysterious, but in fact it also contains certain laws. As long as you can understand the rules and adopt reasonable methods, you can greatly increase the chance of a boy falling in love with you!