For those who have experienced betrayal, there are many emotional knots that are hard to untie.

Betrayal means they don’t cherish or care about you. And everyone naturally wants to protect their dignity. So, the one who has been betrayed will definitely have the knot in their heart: How can I make the other person regret betraying me?

Some people think that this question has no practical value. First, it’s hard to make the other person regret, and even if they do, what difference does it make? Once betrayed, either the marriage is no longer perfect, or the two people have already gone their separate ways.

However, this question is crucial for psychological comfort. If one day the other person truly regrets their past betrayal, it would be a huge “compensation” for oneself.

Furthermore, in order to “achieve” making the other person regret, you must strive. By striving, you will naturally change, and this change is meaningful. So, this is not a trivial issue.

So, how can you make the other person regret?

Let’s think logically: a person chooses to betray because they don’t value, care, or respect you. Therefore, the way to make them regret is to make them realize that you are someone worth valuing, someone they cannot afford to lose, and most importantly, someone who will never come back once lost!

The first step to make them regret is to leave them.

Regardless of whether you accept it or not, there is a truth: if you continue the relationship with them, the likelihood of them regretting is almost zero.

The root of betrayal is the inability to cherish. It’s not because you are not good enough, but because they take your goodness for granted. So, as long as you continue to be good to them, they still won’t appreciate it. For this kind of person, they will only realize your importance when they lose you.

In reality, the betrayer always maintains a high posture and never admits their mistakes. Only when the betrayed party completely gives up, gets divorced, and the relationship ends, and you stop being good to them, only then will they start to care about you and realize the precious and even irreplaceable things they have lost.

At this point, they might truly repent. What do we call this? Regret!

The second step is to be better than before.

Betrayers often have a materialistic and vain mindset. So, if you become better than before, they will regret losing you.

A classic scenario from movies and TV shows: A poor person gets abandoned, and after many years, they become successful. The person who abandoned them regrets. This storyline is applicable to all betrayers.

So, after leaving them, you should strive to become even better, especially in terms of your economic strength, social status, physical appearance, and so on. These are tangible assets that will make them regret.

Third, do not look back.

A good horse does not eat the grass it has passed. If you choose to leave, then don’t look back.

There is an important principle here: what you can’t get is the best.

If you have become better, and at this point, they want to reconcile and even remarry, remember: refuse decisively. Only when they can’t get you, and will never get you, will they truly regret betraying you.

The fourth step is to find someone even more outstanding than them.

Consider this scenario: You have a piece of clothing that you think is not good-looking, so you throw it away. Then, after a few days, you see that this piece of clothing is being worn by a famous celebrity. Of course, you will regret and think, “Why didn’t I recognize its value?”

Do you understand this principle? Find someone better than them to highlight their ignorance and foolishness. This is how you win completely.

In the end, with effort, you can make someone regret, and maybe even make them regret for a lifetime. Of course, if they do regret, you might not even know because they might not tell you.

Furthermore, when the day comes that they regret, you might not even care.

So, in the end, why are you still fixated on “how to make them regret”? It’s just because you haven’t let go of them yet. So, start by learning to let go of this person and this relationship.