They say friendship is never as valuable as love, because love can make you lose yourself.

You can argue about the first part, but the second part is true. A lot of women lose themselves in love. No matter what kind of person they were before, even a proud peacock will lower her head for her lover.

Like Yi Ping said in “My Fair Princess,” she was originally a hedgehog. But because she loved Shu Huan, she pulled out all her quills for him, even if it meant losing her skin and flesh. That’s the power of love.

But even though Yi Ping loved Shu Huan so much, they still broke up because of a misunderstanding. Sometimes, just because you love someone doesn’t mean they’ll love you back.

Of all the ways to give love, giving up everything, even your principles and self-respect, is the most foolish and pathetic. Because a woman’s obedience might just lead to a man leaving without a second thought.

If you want to keep a man, the best way is to reasonably “satisfy” him.

You Are Most Important

Human nature is selfish. For many people, themselves always come first. So sometimes, they’ll even hurt other people’s interests without a second thought.

Sometimes, they can be really “great.” They’ll even sacrifice their own interests to satisfy their lover’s needs. But not all needs are right. For those wrong requests, women need to use their “selfish” spirit.

A lot of women can’t stand to see a man looking pitiful, so they’ll soften up. Even if they know the request is unreasonable, they’ll still agree. This actually hurts both the man and the woman.

Women need to learn to love themselves and spoil themselves. There’s one person who will never abandon you, and that’s you. Love yourself a little more, and you’ll have more sunshine and less rain.

Only when you learn to love yourself will you have the ability to love others. You’ll also be able to make a man understand how to love you.

Stop Taking Things for Granted

Why are some men so inconsiderate of women? Even if a woman is sad or heartbroken, they don’t care. They’ve got her figured out. They believe no matter what happens, she won’t leave them.

What gives men this confidence? It’s because, little by little, they realize how important they are to a woman.

Men will keep making demands on women, each time more unreasonable than the last. This is how they figure out a woman’s limits and their position in her heart.

Learn to Reasonably Satisfy

Finally, it’s important to understand that “reasonable satisfaction” isn’t about refusing everything. Some women get it wrong. They refuse all of a man’s requests, right or wrong. This will only make him love you less.

For example, a man who hasn’t been home in a year wants to go home for the Mid-Autumn Festival to see his parents. He can’t take his girlfriend on a trip. If the girlfriend doesn’t understand, refuses him to go back, or even tries to stop him, she’ll only make him dislike her more.

Not all requests should be refused. You should be as rational as possible. For reasonable requests, learn to satisfy them. This will make you look good in his eyes. It will also make him think you’re “understanding” and good at settling down.

Although love is important, most men end up marrying women who are good at settling down. Women who are too emotional and not suitable for settling down are usually left behind in the past.

Don’t Be a Doormat

So if you want to be with a man for a long time, to truly be together for life, it’s very important to gain his respect.

But this respect isn’t about being a doormat. It’s about being able to rationally help him, the one involved, analyze the situation.

Love is a two-way street. What you give should be returned. If it’s one-sided, it’s meaningless. Unrequited love is wasted. Don’t waste your precious feelings on someone who doesn’t appreciate you.

If you put in the effort and the man still doesn’t respond, it’s time for you to leave. But if he loves you, believe that your efforts will pay off!