When it comes to betrayal, there are too many topics to discuss, but behind these topics, the principles and logic are actually very simple. It’s just that, as an insider, you’re confused and can’t see clearly.

For example, when looking at someone, do you look at what they say or what they do?

Most people’s answer would be “what they do,” but in reality, many people who have been betrayed just listen to the sweet talk and take lies as true words.

If you’re still struggling with this, let’s continue the discussion:

Many people, after betraying someone’s feelings, will say, “Actually, the one I truly love is you…” Do you believe it?

You probably still believe it. I’ve seen people who have betrayed others countless times, yet still say “I love you.” It’s ridiculous. Even more ridiculous is that the other person actually believes it!

Regarding betrayal, the betrayer will come up with many excuses and reasons. For example, “I’ve been too busy lately, so I lost control…” The second half of the sentence might be true, but the first half is definitely a lie. If you’re really busy, how can you have time to betray someone? Betrayal requires effort and time, and it can be stressful too. But look, in reality, many people still believe such low-level lies and think the other person is being reasonable. They start to sympathize and understand the other person, sighing in sadness.

Some betrayers will tell you, “We’ve lost our passion…”

Is this sentence true? It seems true, or else why would they look elsewhere? But think about it carefully, and you’ll realize this sentence is problematic too. Passion is mutual, and if it’s lost, it can be recreated and nurtured. The other person just doesn’t want to put in the effort for you.

In reality, if you can look at the issue from a different angle, the principle is very simple: if someone who betrays others can invest their emotions, thoughts, energy, time, and money, even just 1% of what they invested in their marriage, the marriage would definitely have a chance to be happy.

But they don’t want to.

It’s not that they don’t have emotions, thoughts, energy, time, or money; they just don’t want to invest in you or their marriage.

Uncovering this illusion will make you more miserable, but if you don’t, you’ll still know deep down. You’re just not willing to face it.

When facing betrayal, you must be firm in your cognition and principles. Don’t let the other person lead you astray, and don’t just listen to their words without observing their actions. Otherwise, you’ll suffer from the betrayal and not make any progress.

Some people, even after ending the betrayal, still keep in touch with the other person. Their reason is, “We’re just ordinary friends, no need to be so ruthless…”

In this situation, some friends have asked me, “Teacher, what should I do?”

I say, “If they still keep in touch with the other person, do you feel comfortable?”

“Of course not.”

Then isn’t that settled? Do you still need to struggle with this question?

Such things, on a small scale, are a lack of empathy; on a larger scale, it’s selfishness. Looking deeper, betrayal hurts you, but you don’t feel anything; you completely delete and block the third party, and yet you think you’re being ruthless. You don’t think about what you mean to the other person in their heart. Do they still love you?

Some betrayers will repeatedly say they’re ending it, that they still care about this family and you, but every time they make a promise, it’s followed by another discovery. They’ll say, “Give me some time, this thing is difficult…” You ask them where the difficulty lies, and they can’t answer. They might even say you’re pressuring them or respond with “Fine, let’s just get a divorce!”

You see, it’s ridiculous. Marriage can be divorced, but the affair can’t be ended.

So, people who have suffered emotional betrayal must wake up and maintain correct cognition. Otherwise, you’ll drive yourself crazy one day.