Marrying the Wrong Person After Divorce, Second Marriage Is Sadder Than the First

Love is thinking about someone, marriage is tying someone’s heart, and love is engulfing someone’s heart.

When two people are in love, they always imagine a wonderful life ahead.

But fantasies are just that. Once you’re married, you realize marriage is about holding onto someone’s heart. The grand promises of love pale in comparison to the realities of daily life.

Many people ignore their family’s objections before marriage, bravely choose to be with their partner even without cars, houses, or jobs. They believe in each other and choose to be together.

However, as time goes by after marriage, life becomes harder, and our partner seems more distant. We start to doubt if we chose the right person.

Some people can’t bear it and choose to divorce. But after the divorce, they find the next person is just the same. It feels like fate has scripted all the suffering, trapping us in a cycle of misery.

Recently, I saw this online:

“Don’t easily divorce even in hard times.”

A comment below said:

“Marrying someone after a divorce, a second marriage is sadder than the first.”

Life offers many possibilities, don’t rely on luck alone

A few years ago, my cousin divorced her high school sweetheart despite objections from her family. Later, against their wishes, she married him.

After marriage, she defied her family again and divorced her husband. Her family disagreed with this decision, but her mother believed she was beautiful enough to find a better man even after divorce.

Her mother even tried to set her up with a high school teacher, but he showed no interest despite her efforts.

Eventually, my cousin divorced without finding a better match.

Later, she met her current husband while working in a city, got pregnant within three months, but he abandoned her after the child was born.

Sometimes we think we can find someone better after a divorce, but reality proves otherwise. Don’t rely on luck, as it often leads to disappointment.

Those who eye others’ possessions often end up dissatisfied, regardless of gender.

After divorce, one loses value

Last year, a news story went viral:

A college student, upset that his girlfriend wasn’t a virgin, did extreme things that led the girl to end her life.

This incident sparked debates on gender fairness, with many criticizing the young man’s actions.

People tend to sympathize with women and hope for fairness for both genders. However, many believe that being divorced diminishes one’s value, regardless of gender.

People become selfish and insecure after divorce, fearing their partner’s past experiences.

Before getting married, think carefully. If you’re already married, even if it’s tough, work to maintain the relationship. A second marriage may not be better, and divorcees may lose their value.

Many prefer simpler individuals

Once, an organization in town conducted interviews asking people:

“Would you accept someone who has been divorced?”

Surprisingly, 80% said no, despite advocating for fairness. People tend to be selfish when it comes to personal choices.

80% prefer simplicity and purity, with some men even stating a preference for innocence.

Among the 20%, 10% had remarried, showing less concern for divorcees.

After a failed marriage, people become cautious in subsequent relationships, losing their innocence.

Many feel uneasy being with a divorcee, fearing their partner’s past experiences and lack of security.

Men often prefer women who seem less mature, as they want to be the dominant one in the relationship.

Most people like simplicity, and many dislike cunning individuals.

Don’t rush into divorce even in tough times. Second marriages may not be better than the first, especially when children are involved. Divorce doesn’t just affect the couple but also the children, making it unfair to them.

Fate is predetermined, happiness is personal, and marriage requires effort from both partners. Nothing lasts forever, and marriage is no exception.