Many guys like to use engineering thinking when dealing with the opposite sex.
They always want to dig deep and figure out the principles.
It’s like giving instructions to a machine, and it will respond accordingly.
Once the machine malfunctions, it will pop up an error message to let you know.
But women are just the opposite, they are creatures who love to make you “guess”.
During the process of advancing relationships and upgrading relationships with women, when a woman stops or refuses, and the man doesn’t understand, he reflexively asks—why?
Why doesn’t she take the initiative to contact me?
Why doesn’t she reply to me?
Why doesn’t she want to come out?
Why doesn’t she like me?
Why can’t we hold hands?
Why does she push me away?
Don’t ask about these things.
Many times, she doesn’t know either, and even if she does, she can’t tell you.
Asking why directly will only seem ineffective and make both of you feel awkward.
She never takes the initiative to chat with you, and even when she chats with you, it’s mostly you initiating the conversation.
If you ask her why she doesn’t take the initiative, why she says so little, how can she answer?
Because chatting with you is boring?
Because you’re ugly and she doesn’t want to chat with you?
Because you don’t excite her sexually, but you’re a suitable backup?
Can she say these reasons out loud?
Have you never seen a girl who twists her hands and nervously extends a little finger to reply to her boyfriend’s message while doing the laundry?
What could stop a girl from wanting to chat with you?
You’ve chatted and made plans with a girl for a long time, but she repeatedly refuses your invitations for various reasons.
If you ask her why she won’t come out, how can she answer?
Her interest in you isn’t enough to support her to go out with you?
The motivation to go out with you isn’t enough to offset the torment of the scorching sun outside?
Can she say these reasons out loud?
You’ve never seen a girl excitedly trying on clothes late into the night before a date the next day, have you?
When I was in college and went on a date with the girl I liked, we would skip classes, fail exams, and would rather not return all night just to avoid curfew.
If she can make time for that, do you think the excuse of hot weather is valid?
When a woman blocks your path to advancing the relationship.
You need to observe.
Interpret her thoughts through her demeanor, body language, and positive feedback.
The mouth can lie, but the body won’t.
You go on a date with a girl, have dinner, watch a movie, and walk down the street.
You take her downstairs, and when you try to kiss her, she backs away.
You don’t understand, and want to ask why.
Come on, can those holes under your eyebrows vent?
Of course, you have to see.
See how the girl reacts, how she avoids it.
Is it with a frown, a look of disgust, and a cold expression afterwards, hurrying to go upstairs.
Or after avoiding, she smiles lightly, looks at you meaningfully, then looks at the passerby behind you.
Or you hug her, she wriggles in your arms, hums, and says no, but doesn’t push you away.
Or she playfully frees herself from your embrace, then tells you that her cat can do a backflip and asks if you want to go upstairs to see.
Actually, most of the time, not taking the initiative, replying little, not making plans, and refusing physical contact (in appropriate environments) all stem from not being interested in you.
Asking about this is useless, and the result is just perfunctory.
If you’re not sure whether the other person has feelings for you, then they don’t.
If you’re not sure whether the other person is interested in you, then they aren’t.
Love can’t be hidden.
Just think about how you restrain yourself when facing the girl you like, and you’ll understand.
If you can’t feel it, it just means she’s trying to find a better option, but she’s hesitating about whether you’re worth it.
Another thing, especially during blind dates, is very common.
Guys like to ask the other person, “Do you like me?”
That’s bullshit.
If the other person is in touch with you, it means they want to get to know you better.
Even if the person doesn’t like you much at the moment, they will give you a positive answer out of face.
And asking “Do you like me” is most suitable when you’re having a private rendezvous, whispering sweet nothings in her ear.
A girl who likes you will be eager to chat with you and get close to you.
If you’re unsure whether the other person likes you, just think about whether you would treat a girl you like the same way she treats you, and you’ll understand.
The only difference is that women have a unique “vixen mechanism” and fear being too casual, being looked down on, being deceived, and being seen as unattractive, so they appear indecisive.
But they definitely have thoughts.
As for distinguishing between whether she’s teasing you or truly not interested in you.
(√) Shy, hesitant, acquiescent
(×) Disgust, aversion, rage
So, young men, please let go of your logical thinking.
Observe more, analyze more, and put yourself in the other person’s shoes more.
Male-female matters aren’t always just about inputting commands to get results.