On the Wedding Day, the Bride Demanded a Change of Payment, and the Mother-in-law Willingly Transferred Twenty Thousand: No Need to Call Her Mom Anymore

Shakespeare once said, “Hasty marriage seldom proves well.” We should also carefully consider marriage.

Each place has its own unique wedding customs, and the bride’s request for a change of payment to the in-laws can vary. Recently, a friend sent me a letter with the following contents:

I have been married for 5 years, being the eldest in my family with a younger brother who is about to get married. The family values him greatly, and everyone is looking forward to his wedding. All the ceremonies were elaborate and well-attended.

We naturally care about the future sister-in-law. On the wedding day, amidst many relatives and friends, the ceremony was grand. However, a significant family conflict arose over the change of payment.

When the sister-in-law addressed my parents as mom and dad, they joyfully handed over red envelopes. After my father gave money, to everyone’s surprise, the sister-in-law opened the envelope in front of everyone. Inside was a thousand dollars, which she found unsatisfactory. She directly said, “In our place, the minimum change of payment is twenty thousand. Giving a thousand is disrespectful, isn’t it?”

Upon hearing this, my parents felt embarrassed. With all the guests present, to avoid further embarrassment, my mother had to transfer twenty thousand directly from her phone. Only then did the sister-in-law obediently call her mom.

Honestly, this incident made our family quite embarrassed. It was supposed to be a joyous day, but this joke made it hard to accept.

After the relatives and friends left, my parents shook their heads helplessly. At that moment, the sister-in-law kept calling my mom “mom.” My mom, feeling upset, directly told her, “No need to call me mom anymore.”

After saying this, my mom angrily left. This incident has still not resolved the strained relationship between my mom and the sister-in-law, leaving our family in distress, unsure of what to do.

In real life, many people have faced similar awkward situations. Marriage is supposed to be a celebration, and creating unnecessary tension over trivial matters is simply not worth it. Through this story, we can understand many truths.

In marriage, we should not settle. Before marrying someone, we should thoroughly understand them. If two families cannot get along harmoniously, then the marriage needs reconsideration.

A good marital life hinges on these two aspects, neither of which can be lacking.

Regarding Bridal Gifts and Dowry

Bridal gifts merely symbolize respect from the groom’s side and add a sense of ceremony. Dowry, prepared by the bride’s parents, represents support for the new family formed by the couple.

As parents, when dealing with your children’s marriage, you should be more cautious. Before marriage, both parties should discuss these ceremonial matters and avoid creating jokes during the wedding.

Marriage is a significant lifelong choice, and in this one life, we should maintain peace to attain more happiness.

Bridal gifts and dowry are only symbolic, and the most crucial aspect of a relationship is happiness. Creating conflicts over these symbolic items is not worth it.

Learning to Respect Each Other

Gorky once said, “Those who respect others should not talk about themselves.”

Sometimes, marriage involves not just two individuals but two families. If you choose to become part of another family, you must learn to respect each other.

Every place has its unique wedding customs. Before marriage, families should discuss and not act selfishly. Marriage should be a joyous and harmonious occasion. Both families should respect each other, and if there are no plans for marriage, there is no need to torment each other.

Once you decide to enter the realm of marriage, you should learn to nurture family happiness.

Family harmony is crucial. In marriage, men seek understanding and respect, while women desire love and happiness.

Learn to manage happiness well to improve your marital life.

Marriage is not child’s play; it requires each of us to handle it with care. When facing love, we should be cautious. Choosing marriage means learning to cultivate happiness. A harmonious family is essential. Unpleasant situations due to trivial issues are unnecessary.

A truly happy marriage requires the effort of the entire family. Mother-in-law issues are common in real life, but not all conflicts cannot be resolved. Many families have harmonious relationships, aiming for peace together. Therefore, there is no need to intentionally make things difficult over minor issues. Understanding each other is key to a peaceful and happy family life.