Benjamin Franklin said:

“Before marriage, keep both eyes open; after marriage, close one.”

Marriage may start at the civil affairs office, but if it ends, it could end up in court, affecting parents and children.

When a man chooses a woman, and vice versa, they must be careful. A good man lightens a woman’s burden, but a stingy one may burden her more.

Here’s a story:

When the mother-in-law fell ill and was discharged from the hospital, the husband asked the wife to pay for the medical expenses. The wife said:

“It was you who wanted to split the bills.”

They had agreed to split the hospital expenses, just like they did when the wife gave birth before. But after the mother-in-law was discharged, the husband demanded the wife to pay.

Reading such news is shocking. It’s surprising to find such stingy men in real life.

Taking Care of Your Mother Shouldn’t be Splitting Bills with Your Wife

Respecting parents is essential, but when taking care of your mother, it shouldn’t be about splitting bills with your wife or leaving the financial burden on her alone.

As a family and as a man, when things happen at home, you should handle them responsibly and not shift all the responsibility onto the woman.

It’s your mother who is hospitalized, not the woman’s mother. Even if it were the mother-in-law, splitting the bills equally is unreasonable. Making the woman pay alone shows the man’s greed, especially when it’s his own mother.

Women should marry men who understand the situation. Some men, driven by money, may act irrationally, disregarding women’s feelings and norms. Living with such men can be exhausting.

Money Talks in Marriage can Lead to Breakups

I had a friend who always gave money to her husband whenever he asked. When I asked her why she was so good to him, she said:

“I don’t want a broken marriage.”

In marriage, money conflicts can strain relationships. Some compromise to maintain the marriage, giving all their money to the man.

However, this is wrong. Some men’s behavior is influenced by women. As they say, “Men need training.”

Smart women control their men, but some women keep compromising to keep a man, ending up losing both love and money.

Though money can strengthen or end a relationship, some may only be with you for money. So, it’s crucial to choose wisely and not let money dictate your relationships.

Money Can Make People Strangers

Money can make people strangers, turning relationships cold.

Once, my boyfriend borrowed money from me when he was injured. I gave it to him without hesitation. But afterward, he kept asking for money. Even though I knew he was a student, unlike me, he was getting a monthly allowance, he still asked for money.

Our relationship grew distant due to money issues, leading to our breakup. Money can make people strangers and either strengthen or destroy relationships.

When choosing a partner, be wary. If they value money more than you, they may choose money over you when faced with important decisions.

Unity in Times of Crisis

During emergencies, unity is crucial. When an elderly family member falls ill, don’t focus solely on money.

Talking about money can make the elderly uncomfortable and affect their health. Some elders hide their illness to avoid burdening their children with medical expenses.

The common goal should be caring for the elderly. Money is secondary; what matters is unity within the family.

Disagreements in a family only lead to more disputes. It’s essential to communicate and contribute in a family. Mutual efforts lead to harmony and unity.

In tough times, it’s about helping each other. Many issues become insignificant as solutions are collectively found. Each person possesses unique skills that, when combined, help overcome challenges.

As Hasegawa said:

“Men see women’s virtues after marriage, while women see men’s foolishness.”

Men might be clueless after marriage, but some stick to principles, while others don’t.