People often compare the institution of marriage to a grave or fireworks—fleeting and a leap into a fire. Some say marriage is like a wall or a two-way mirror, reflecting the beauty of love while exposing each other’s flaws without reservation.

In their eyes, this kind of love is unfortunate and torturous. Often, a man’s attitude towards you determines the freshness of love. So, what kind of women are loved to the core by men, wholeheartedly?

A woman who walks side by side with him, constantly growing

My friend Sarah got married to her boyfriend after graduating from college and became a full-time homemaker. Due to childcare needs and the poor job market, her niche major limited her career development.

But she didn’t become the stereotypical married woman who only revolves around family and her husband. She used her time at home to learn various signature dishes and studied UI design during her child’s nap time.

She started taking freelance projects on weekends to earn extra money for her family. Balance was maintained between family and career.

“A flower does not bloom overnight.”

A woman’s charm and charisma are not immediate but a result of long-term cultivation. The enduring mystery lies in the discipline of growth.

In reality, when a man truly falls in love with an exceptional woman, it’s not just admiration but also respect. And this respect is what makes love last and reach to the core.

A woman with a rich inner world and independent personality

A mature woman undoubtedly has an independent personality, distinct from emotions. They strike a balance between dependency and dignity. Men choose women who need them, not those who are independent.

My high school classmate Emily’s seven-year-long relationship ended in failure.

Reflecting on the past, she always revolved everything around him, prioritizing his feelings in every situation. This excessive love made her realize she had become too dependent on him. However, dependency does not mean losing oneself or losing the ability to take care. It often shows immaturity and excessive love.

Instead of spending all your time on a man, why not allocate some time for yourself—read a book, paint, learn a song? To be loved to the core by a man, first, be a woman worthy of love.

Continuously enrich your inner world, increase your growth experiences. When these inner charms enhance, men will naturally appreciate you, want to know you, and be willing to accept you. This is the unique power brought by a woman’s charisma and inner self.

A woman who pursues equal love and shares the same values

Men often say women who chase money are materialistic, so women who chase after money are often deemed worthless by these men. How can deep love exist in such cases?

They say marriages should be based on similar backgrounds. But my aunt comes from an average family, while her husband works in real estate and is well off. Despite their significant differences in background and culture, they came together.

In my view, although they come from different backgrounds, their pursuit of the same quality of life and values doesn’t hinder their love and journey into marriage.

It turns out that compatibility doesn’t just revolve around family background but also includes how both parties view life, perspectives, and aspirations. It’s a blend of spirits and souls.

For me, this kind of emotion is the highest level of love, the foundation of the most stable relationship, and what we call security.