After being betrayed, it’s best to separate emotions from marriage to avoid getting stuck. Especially in troubled marriages that are hard to leave, this targeted approach is effective.

So, what does it mean to separate emotions from marriage and how to handle it?

First, let go of emotions and distance yourself.

The logic is: your emotions are what hurt you, and as long as the relationship continues, it’s hard to truly let go. So, you must distance yourself to avoid getting hurt.

Understanding this, how should you proceed?

First, break free from emotional dependency.

To let go of someone, you must stop seeking emotional support from them. Instead, be self-reliant and fulfill your emotional needs on your own.

Breaking free from dependency means shifting reliance from your partner to yourself in various aspects of life. It’s crucial for truly moving on emotionally.

Don’t expect to wake up and suddenly feel over someone. Moving on is a gradual process achieved through small steps and time.

Second, prioritize your feelings over your partner’s.

After betrayal, focus on your feelings more than your partner’s. If you always prioritize others, you’ll struggle to let go. Learn to prioritize your own feelings in conflicting situations.

Treat marriage as a partnership.

Assess if your marriage benefits you. If it’s only causing misery, most people would choose to divorce. Stay in a marriage only if it fulfills certain needs.

If you can make these adjustments, you’ll gradually let go of the relationship and the person.

Remember, there are happy and unhappy marriages. Unhappy ones require letting go. This applies to emotions, not the institution of marriage.

Handle marriage like a business partnership. Focus on what benefits you to maintain a functional relationship.

If your marriage lacks value, divorce may be the best option. Focus on what keeps you in the relationship and understand the reasons behind it.

Treat “spousal relationships” like “colleague relationships.” Handle your part, maintain civility, and aim for personal well-being.

Those overly emotional or serious may struggle with this adjustment. For them, divorce may be inevitable due to the nature of emotions and marriage.

Even after divorce, letting go and moving on are essential. Holding onto emotions only leads to more pain and unhappiness.

After betrayal, regardless of the outcome, you’ll realize that letting go and moving on are fundamental tasks that must be addressed and completed.