A friend of mine told me that she and her ex-boyfriend broke up almost a year ago, but they still keep each other’s contact information.
She hasn’t deleted his number because she can’t forget about their past romance and is still stuck in the shadow of their failed relationship, often sneaking a peek at his social media.
She wonders if her ex is feeling the same way, reluctant to let go of each other.
However, after checking out his social media, I realized that things weren’t as she thought.
Although he doesn’t post frequently, his content seems very upbeat, showing no signs of being affected by their breakup. There are even photos of him having a blast with other girls.
My friend might be overthinking things. When it comes to love, guys are often more rational than girls. To them, a breakup is just a breakup, and there’s no need for a grand farewell ceremony or deleting each other’s numbers.
So, why do guys still keep your contact info after a breakup? Here are 4 reasons.
It Doesn’t Matter Whether I Delete or Not
Guys’ attitudes toward love are different from girls’. While girls might feel like their world has ended after a breakup, guys tend to view love as an added bonus in life, not the center of their universe. They might still care about their ex, but they won’t make a big deal about it.
Deleting or not deleting someone’s number doesn’t mean they’ve moved on or not. It’s just that guys don’t feel the need to make a scene about it.
Too Lazy to Care
You might have encountered guys who don’t seem to care about your feelings, even though you’ve poured your heart out to them. They might still keep your number, but that doesn’t mean they’re holding onto the past. They’re just too lazy to delete it.
If they really do delete your number, it means they’re willing to truly let go of the past.
Out of Politeness
Most guys won’t dwell on the details of a breakup. Even if the relationship was a painful memory for them, they won’t choose to delete or block their ex out of courtesy.
They might not have feelings for you anymore, but they’ll maintain a gentlemanly attitude. If they do post something on social media, it’s not meant to provoke you.
Want to Stay Friends
In life, we all need friends. Our romantic partners often start out as friends. Although we might not be compatible as lovers, we can still be friends.
Some guys might not be able to make it as lovers, but they can still be great friends. If they can turn their romantic relationship into a friendship, that’s the ideal scenario.
Still Have Feelings for You
Some guys still keep their ex’s contact info because they can’t let go of the past. They’re waiting for the right moment to reconnect with you.
If they still send you caring messages or check in on your social media, it means they still have feelings for you. If you still have feelings for them, don’t hesitate to give it another shot.
However, guys like this often have a fatal flaw: they’re not emotionally mature.
In the end, love is a complex and painful thing. Although it’s beautiful, it can also be a source of suffering.
Remember to cherish love when you have it, and don’t let it slip away.