It’s often said, “Love gives rise to worry, love gives rise to fear. If one is detached from love, there will be no worry or fear.”
In real life, if you truly love someone, the more you love them, the more you will fear losing them. You fear them leaving, getting upset, being wronged, or struggling alone. All of this stems from those three words—“I love you.”
In a previous conversation with a friend about the topic of “love,” my friend said something that left a deep impression on me. He said, “The more someone is afraid of you, the more they love you.” Upon careful consideration, it does make sense. Only someone who truly loves you will pamper, accommodate, and cherish you, while those who don’t love you will simply stop caring.
My friend once shared a story with me about her relationship. She said that in the early days of dating her boyfriend, he always accommodated her, even during arguments he would come to comfort her, afraid of seeing her wronged. But by the third year of their relationship, she noticed a change in his attitude.
Even during arguments, her boyfriend would simply play games quietly on the side. He no longer made an effort to communicate, and eventually, they peacefully parted ways without even meeting each other in person.
She said, when a man truly loves you, he is afraid of losing you. But when a man doesn’t love you, he remains indifferent no matter what you do.
One might wonder, how can you tell if a man truly loves you? The answer is simple. When a man shows the following behaviors, it indicates that he truly loves you.
Afraid of seeing you wronged
A man who genuinely likes a girl can’t bear to see her wronged because he cares about her. For the person he loves, he wants to give her the best. Seeing her wronged would deeply upset him.
Loving someone is simple, there’s no reason behind it. But not loving someone can come with a hundred excuses. Those who truly like you won’t nitpick at anything about you. Instead, they fear not being able to give you enough and worry about you being wronged or sad because of them.
Perhaps everyone has been hurt in relationships before, but there’s a saying that goes, “There will always be someone who picks up your pieces and loves you securely.”
Indeed, someone who truly loves you will always keep you in their heart, cherish you, care for you, and fear seeing you wronged. On the other hand, someone who doesn’t love you is selfish, afraid of any trouble you might bring. Love and lack of love are simple. It’s unnecessary to complicate love or bend over backward in front of someone who doesn’t love you.
Only someone who truly loves you is afraid of seeing you wronged.
Afraid of you leaving
Some say we all hope to meet someone honest, without hidden intentions or thoughts of leaving, unafraid of anything except you leaving.
In real life, this holds true. Encountering someone like this is both lucky and fateful. You can be willful, have a temper, or act coquettishly in front of him.
But you can’t walk away from him. This is the highest level of a man loving you—even knowing your imperfections, he still wants to pamper, cherish, and protect you.
I once saw a quote online that said, “I’m not here to make you lose someone, I’m here to add another person in this world who loves you.”
In relationships, true love is mutual. Someone who truly loves you won’t make you lose anything; instead, they will give you double the love. Someone who truly loves you won’t let you leave because they know how to cherish you.
Afraid your money isn’t enough to spend
If a man truly loves you, he will give you his time, energy, and money.
It’s said that capable men aren’t afraid of materialistic women, and capable women aren’t afraid of men being unfaithful. In real life, this is true.
A man who truly loves you won’t fear your material needs because he has the ability and confidence to provide you with a better life. He’s willing to strive and work hard for you.
On the other hand, someone who has nothing and takes your kindness for granted, even if lost, won’t have regrets.
Being afraid that your money isn’t enough doesn’t mean the man needs to be extremely wealthy. It means he’s willing to give you all he has. A man who only has $100 and is willing to give you $99, versus a man with $10,000 who only gives you $100, who loves you more? It’s obvious.
There’s a saying in books, “When speaking seriously, the listener doesn’t take it seriously, but when speaking casually, the listener takes it seriously.”
In relationships, it’s the same. Actions speak louder than words. Practical actions far outweigh unrealistic promises. Only someone willing to do things for you truly loves you.
In relationships, the more someone is afraid of you, the more they love you. It’s because they love you that they are willing to accommodate you.