Some people believe that a lifetime is too short, that it is only enough to love one person in a lifetime.

Others believe that a lifetime is too long, believing in the saying “time reveals a person’s true colors,” constantly searching along the way.

This is why we often hear single people say “I haven’t met the right one” and people who have gone through a breakup say “because we are not compatible.”

Later on, we understand that the initial excitement cannot compare to the endurance of long-term companionship. Only when you are with the right person can a relationship last.

If you want to know if a relationship is suitable, look at these three points.

1. Can the two people eat together?

In the movie “The BBQ Battle,” it is said:

When someone first meets another person and wants to be friends, wants to be their lover, wants to be their family, the first thing to do is to eat together.

It seems true; eating together determines the impression the other person leaves in our hearts.

If a person doesn’t care about eating with you, how can you expect them to truly like you?

My cousin had one experience with a blind date before her wedding.

Before leaving, our grandmother specifically reminded her:

“When eating with someone, remember to enjoy the meal. But also stay alert.”

In the eyes of the elderly, a person’s demeanor at the dining table is often the most genuine.

After the first meal, if it makes you uncomfortable, the relationship won’t last long.

After that meal, my cousin came back and said that she wasn’t compatible with the blind date.

“He didn’t even ask me what I like to eat or if I have any restrictions.

He ordered three spicy dishes in a row, enjoying them himself.

I had just recovered from a sore throat and couldn’t eat spicy food.

Halfway through the meal, he finally looked up and asked why I wasn’t eating.”

In life, there aren’t many earth-shattering events that can test whether two people are compatible.

Most often, it’s the small things in everyday life, like meals three times a day.

My cousin later met her current husband, and whenever they eat together, he always considers her preferences first.

Our family prefer sweets. We must have soup with every meal.

However, my brother-in-law is a true loves spicy food.

Even though they have such different personalities and dietary preferences, they happily walked down the aisle of marriage.

People say that if you want to keep someone’s heart, you must first satisfy their stomach.

My cousin was moved by her brother-in-law because he was willing to wash his hands and cook soup for her.

If you like plain food, use less salt. If you have a sweet tooth, add more sugar. If you like spicy food, add more chili.

This way, two people can eat together with tolerance and love.

Sweet words are indeed touching, but what everyone truly desires is to stay together until old age. It’s about giving love to everyday life, adding flavor to the ordinary.

2. Can the two people play together?

Not long ago, my high school classmate Caroline posted a wedding photo on FB with a caption:

Before meeting you, I yearned for mountains and rivers.

After meeting you, I want to see mountains and rivers with you.

After waiting for so many years, luckily you appeared.

Caroline has an outgoing personality and seems carefree on the surface. She loves to travel, hike, and engage in outdoor exploration sports.

Over the years, she has also had several relationships, but every time the same reason led to a breakup—she wasn’t suitable for a long-term commitment.

Gradually, she let go of the idea of falling in love and focused on living her own life.

Unexpectedly, last year during a trip , Caroline met her current boyfriend.

Although he may not be tall, handsome, or wealthy, when Caroline is with him, she feels grounded, at ease, and like they were meant to meet.

They clicked immediately during their journey. As they got to know each other, they discovered many similarities and naturally fell in love with each other.

He took her on trips, adventures, taught her rollerblading, and they went hiking together… in every moment they spent together, their love grew rapidly.

They became not only each other’s strength and support on their journey but also the most harmonious partners.

Whether two people are suitable for each other and can play together is really important.

Someone who can play with you will understand your joy, sorrow, and everything in between. They are willing to laugh and have fun with you.

As long as you are together, every ordinary day will be vibrant and alive.

3. Can the two people talk with each other?

“It’s nothing, I just wanted to talk to you.”

This statement may sound a bit awkward, but it also carries a hint of sadness.

How many people live in such a way in their relationships?

After coming back home from work, he plays video games on his computer, while she watches dramas on her phone. There is no communication, no sharing.

A colleague named Arlene often sighs, “Marriage is like a grave, these days become more and more tasteless.”

Her husband doesn’t know what she did today, and she doesn’t know if he’s in a good or bad mood. Their daily communication is limited to “I’m going to bed” and “Me too” before they fall asleep.

They’ve only been married for three years, but it feels like they’re living in two separate worlds even though they share the same space.

Silence is what relationships fear the most. Once the desire to speak is gone, the relationship is not far from falling apart.

For those who have seen the show “Comedy Club,” Cheng Lu and Si Wen are probably familiar names. Cheng Lu, the behind-the-scenes screenwriter, and Si Wen, the renowned stand-up comedian, have become well-known figures, with Si Wen attaining significantly more fame than Cheng Lu.

When the two initially decided to get married, Si Wen’s father, upon observing Cheng Lu, privately questioned his daughter, “Why have you chosen to marry this average-looking, financially insecure man?”

Si Wen responded, “Because he is the person I can talk to the most!”

Indeed, in long-lasting relationships, the ability to have meaningful conversations is a critical factor. Upon hearing her daughter’s answer, Si Wen’s father remained silent, understanding the significance of their connection.

As Nietzsche once said,

“Marriage is like an ongoing dialogue. When you embark on the journey of marriage, ask yourself if you can still laugh together and enjoy each other’s company when you are old.”

When two people are together, minor frictions are inevitable. However, what truly matters is that they can consistently communicate on the same wavelength within their relationship.

Only when two individuals can engage in open and honest conversations can they truly understand each other, allowing their relationship to thrive and evolve.

Online, there is a question that asks, “When did you realize that being with this person was the right choice?”

One particularly adorable response was,

“From the moment I realized that I wake up with a smile every day when I am with him. We are so perfectly aligned that thinking about our future fills me with boundless anticipation.”

Many people yearn for a relationship that never ends, simply hoping to meet the right person in the right place and at the right time. However, just as only the feet know whether a pair of shoes fits, only the heart knows if a person is the right fit.

Out of a thousand paths, the straightest one is the shortest. Out of countless people, finding one true partner is enough.

Encountering the right person can be challenging, but engaging in a relationship with the right person is not. However, for many people, the desire is not to seek out the right person; rather, they hope for the right person to appear out of thin air.

It is important to remember that the right person is never someone who checks all the boxes from the very first encounter. Rather, they possess qualities that align with what makes a person “right” for you.

Genuine compatibility is not predetermined. It is developed through mutual understanding, where shared experiences are cherished, and differences are gradually harmonized.

May we all have the fortune of meeting our perfect match and embark on a journey where we can witness the beauty of life together. Let us cherish every moment, from the blooming of spring flowers to the falling of autumn leaves, creating a lifetime of precious memories.