In ancient times, it was said, “One horse carriage, one letter, love only one person in a lifetime.” The way emotions were expressed back then was both subtle and direct, with both parties understanding each other’s feelings. Nowadays, love is more about chemistry and feelings.
With the changing times, everyone has different ways of expressing their feelings. Some confess directly, some secretly admire, some try to get your attention every day.
“All these words scolding you are actually my way of confessing to you.”
It is well known that women have always been emotional creatures, especially easily moved by those they like. However, as they grow older or gain more experience, they become more cautious and thoughtful in their approach to love.
When a woman shows intimacy towards you, one major sign is treating you differently from others. One way of doing this is seemingly “scolding you,” but actually confessing to you in a subtle manner.
“You deserve to be single.”
Lucy is a lively girl, always cheerful and sociable. She gets along well with others and spends a lot of time with her childhood friend. However, her friend never seems to catch on, so she tells him every day, “You deserve to be single.” Implication: Are you really that clueless? Can’t you see that I like you?
Everyone around them can see that Lucy likes him, but he seems oblivious, neither responding nor rejecting her advances. He just smiles and casually says, “Being single is not bad.”
Many say this guy is clueless and advise Lucy to stay away from him. However, he occasionally treats Lucy well and shows no interest in other women. Perhaps he just doesn’t get it; some men are not very sensitive when it comes to emotions.
The phrase “You deserve to be single” reveals frustration, helplessness, and a hint of disappointment. Most people easily get agitated or angry without thinking too much about these words, missing out on love.
Love doesn’t require high emotional intelligence, but it does require a basic level of sensitivity towards feelings.
Communication is an art; being good at it makes others enjoy being around you.
We often reserve “kindness” for those who are insignificant to us and show “harshness” to those closest to us. In dealing with casual relationships, we tend to be more cautious.
In today’s love relationships, what is deeply cared about in one’s heart often turns into words filled with blame, disagreement, like harsh criticisms.
However, the other person may not necessarily understand this, and may even complain about why you are like this. Even if they have feelings for you, such repeated situations can wear down those feelings.
When we receive “greetings” from close relationships, we should take a moment to think about the reasons behind them. Is it out of care or worry? Without enough understanding and compatibility, it’s hard to have a deep connection, like the weaver girl and the cowherd separated by a shallow stream, unable to speak but communicating through their eyes, able to understand each other’s feelings.
Ways of expressing emotions vary from person to person, especially when it comes to someone you like, you need to be extra attentive, focused, and persistent. Don’t overthink because of some words, don’t give up on a relationship so easily due to lack of confidence.
“Are you stupid? How can such a foolish person survive?”
Maya is a white-collar worker at the company. A new colleague, Y, is not very meticulous in his work, but he is diligent and eager to learn.
Maya pays attention to him every day and gradually realizes that Y is a kind-hearted person with potential, which leads to developing feelings for him.
Every time Maya sees Y making common sense mistakes, she can’t help but say to him, “Are you stupid? How can such a foolish person survive?” Everyone understands the implication: you need someone by your side to “conquer the world” together. However, Y doesn’t think much about it, feeling embarrassed for his mistakes and just promising to do better.
One day, a female colleague invited Y to dinner and a movie under the pretext of teaching him something, but Y coldly refused, saying he needed to work overtime to study. Maya shook her head with a smile and said the same words, leaving Y standing in the pantry, looking puzzled as he watched Maya leave.
In matters of love, success or failure always lies in the details. Whether you understood the hidden meanings behind a girl’s words at the time or not, don’t rush to express yourself. Learn to be silent and calm, reflect carefully, and then make a judgment.
Men also hope that you can understand women and their true feelings. Women are not only emotional but also like to speak with hidden meanings. When dealing with something, even if they say they don’t want it, don’t like it, or find it stupid, deep down they might be overjoyed.
Love is like water to people; one knows best whether it’s warm or cold. Outsiders can’t judge right or wrong, but as the person involved, you must understand these hidden messages, not easily let love slip away, as subtle love often comes quickly but can also be easily hurt by overthinking.