Marriages without conflicts are as hard to imagine as countries without crises.—Morouwa

Many say love often leads to sorrow. Perhaps each of us has a tinge of regret when it comes to love. Sometimes, the person we marry may not be our first love. But once you choose to enter the realm of marriage, you must learn to cherish it.

As we age, the people we meet may carry baggage from the past. Love can evolve, and we need not dwell on the past. As long as you know the person beside you loves you, that should be enough.

Not long ago, a friend sent me a letter with the following content:

My husband and I have been married for three years. We met after college. I knew about his seven-year relationship before me. Although he mentioned it when we started dating, I accepted it. As long as he loves me now, I feel happy.

He still maintains contact with his ex-girlfriend after they broke up. Most of the time, they interact as friends. We even wished her on her birthday together.

Many say I am too lenient. They believe his relationship with his ex will harm our marriage eventually. But I think, in love, we need not dig too deep.

I believe love is about trust. If he didn’t love me enough, he wouldn’t have chosen me. If I didn’t love him enough, I wouldn’t have accepted his past. True love is about respect and understanding.

To outsiders, my approach may seem wrong. But I know deep down that this man is worth it. We have a son and a daughter. No matter how late he finishes work, he always calls me. I wait for him to come home before sleeping.

I know his job is stressful, so I try my best as a wife. After marrying me, his sense of responsibility towards this family has grown.

But I know what I am doing. Regardless of my actions, as long as I know this man loves me, that’s enough. I never cared about his past relationships or encounters. Since he chose me, I must trust him fully for our love to last.

I shared my story to make you understand that for a woman to be happy in marriage, she should not dwell on a man’s past. Overanalyzing will only bring more pain.

Digging too deep will make a man increasingly impatient with you.

If a woman seeks happiness from a man, she must rely on her efforts. Your tenderness and understanding will make him fall deeply in love with you eventually.

Many women believe a man must be devoted to them after marriage. But for a man to be devoted, you must learn to be gentle and understanding. When men face life and work pressures, their grievances and sadness are real. This is where a woman’s tenderness and understanding become crucial.

Not delving into a man’s past is a sign of respect and empathy. Opportunities, once missed, may never return. Ultimately, such behavior will diminish your self-worth. Good relationships involve mutual effort and understanding. Not dwelling on a man’s past will make your love last longer.

Happy married women often embody these two qualities:

Tenderness and Understanding

Love, attachment, and respect form the foundation of marriage.—Leoni Dova

Tenderness is a woman’s most potent weapon in dealing with men. When you learn to be gentle and caring, men will also find warmth in your actions. They say women who act coquettishly are fortunate; such women can also evoke deeper love and protective instincts in men.

Being considerate and understanding is crucial for women in relationships.

Generosity and Ease

In a family, women are the core. It’s a woman’s understanding nature that makes a husband cherish the home more.

Many women after marriage constantly worry about whether their husbands love them. They become overly sensitive to minor details, fearing the loss of love or a change in their man. However, such women are the most foolish. In relationships, we must learn to be relaxed. A man’s love depends entirely on you.

If you keep questioning a man’s love every day, eventually, his love for you will diminish.

Love should not be forced, but responsibility is crucial in marriage.—Roland

Good love doesn’t require digging into the past. Cherishing the present is the best solution. Trust between partners is essential. Failing to trust each other makes a relationship challenging.

For women, a happy marriage is a lifelong treasure. A woman’s happiness often lies in her hands. In marriage, not dwelling on a man’s past will make your love more passionate.