If there’s an antidote to love, it’s staying awake in it.
Every conflict can be resolved with a clear mind, and every breakup can be handled rationally.
Breaking up means the end of a relationship, and getting back together means starting over. Smart women know that even if they are with the same person repeatedly, the way they manage relationships is different.
Only when you can grow together and get back together will it make sense. If not, even if you fall in love again, don’t get back together easily after breaking up.
1. Emotions that are easily reconciled will make the same mistakes again.
It is common to break up and get back together in a relationship. A truly effective breakup has the effect of a growth catalyst. You can realize your shortcomings from a failed relationship, change and grow, and even if you still choose to restart a new relationship with the old person, it will not happen again. Make the same mistakes as before.
Just like Zhong Xiaoqin and Chen Yu in “Only Thirty”, the two had various conflicts after marriage. Chen Yu did not understand Zhong Xiaoqin’s inner desire for romance, and Zhong Xiaoqin could not see Chen Yu’s love and devotion to herself.
The frequent conflicts made the two exhausted, and they finally chose to divorce. After the divorce, they each reflected on each other, grew up and sobered up, and began to consider problems from the other’s perspective. After experiencing loss, they realized that the other person was each other’s favorite. They carefully chose to remarry, managed the marriage with a new way of getting along, and gained the happiness they wanted. .
If the breakup brings no meaning, when the fresh feeling of regaining it has passed, the old relationship mode is like a stubborn disease in the relationship, which will still be a hidden danger that will affect the destruction of the relationship once again formed.
Let the breakup become an unforgettable lesson and a growth promoter in love. Only by innovating yourself can you have a better love.
2. A woman who takes the initiative to look back will make herself passive
Eileen Chang once said that if you fall in love with someone, you will humble yourself into the soil until a flower blooms from the soil.
After breaking up, if you are unwilling to let go and take the initiative to recover by stalking, or if you agree without hesitation when the other party gives the slightest hint of wanting to get back together, love without setting a threshold is a humble beginning in a relationship, even if it will eventually break out. Even if the flower of love appears, its vitality will not last long.
A TV series called “Wife’s Choice” vividly explains this point of view with the character of Xiao Yu.
Xiaoyu likes her boyfriend very much, but her boyfriend can’t stand Xiaoyu’s entanglement and breaks up with her. He can’t stand Xiaoyu’s desire to give her a car as a gift and chooses to get back together. Xiaoyu got the other person’s person, but not the sincerity. She would be criticized for whatever she did. She was so humble that she took the initiative to hand over her slippers when her boyfriend came in. But in the end, she still didn’t stop her boyfriend from falling in love.
If you can’t wait to get back together after a breakup, you are revealing your trump card. In the process of emotional games, the person who reveals his trump card first will often lose.
3. No matter how much you like someone, you must first love yourself
I have seen this sentence:
Men won’t like women who can’t even support themselves, but they will want to support women who can support themselves well.
If a woman gives up her dignity and bottom line and wants him to please a man, she will appear like a beggar begging for love in the emotional world, full of cheapness.
Love is an exchange of considerable value. If you want to be liked by a man, the most important thing a woman should do is to love herself well.
After a breakup, there is no need to be sad. You must know that love is just the spice of life, not everything. Spend your time on yourself, travel, read, go to parties, see the world in various ways, and love yourself first. , someone will love you.
Don’t be afraid that you won’t be able to get over a failed relationship after a breakup. As long as you are willing, you will always stand up bravely from the past experience and gain a brand new self.
Hugo said: Life is a flower, and love is the nectar of the flower.
But if the jar of honey you got with your heart is not sweet, don’t cry bitterly after the jar is broken. Find out why the honey is not sweet and whether it is not suitable for your taste. Don’t expect good sweet honey to come to you. , work hard to make the flower of life bloom beautifully, and you will have good honey that will be sweet to your heart.