If men are burrowing animals, then women are nesting animals.

Therefore, women build nests to protect the love they have; men attack and occupy women’s nests.

Therefore, in the world of marriage, many men generally choose the person they like the most, while many women generally choose the person they like the most.

Don’t doubt it, this is the code that God has already written.

During that lovelorn summer that was blown away by the wind, I thought about leaving my hometown for a long time, and my father drove me to many places.

There was music playing in the car, still with the same sentimental lyrics.

The breeze blew, and I couldn’t bear to let my father see that I was scarred, so I could only hum as if nothing had happened.

At that time, my mind was filled with Honey’s words after saying goodbye.

She said: These days, I sometimes think of the time when we formed a group to watch movies in college, and how you covered the entire dormitory building with large spray-paints just to chase me.

She said: In fact, I have read all the poems you wrote, and I can’t imagine who you will write poems for in the future.

A lot she said…

I still remember that it was raining heavily that day, and Honey said very directly that we would not be able to meet each other in the future, and that we were not suitable. She also directly said that she treated me as a friend and was afraid of hurting me. I hope that I understood. Unexpectedly, I was really stubborn.

At that time, I was caught in the rain for a day downstairs in the dormitory, and then I became seriously ill.

So I couldn’t help but reply to the text message and said: Since you like me, why did you say so decisively that we were not suitable and had no intersection? Are you kidding me?

She said: Those words were taught to me by my boyfriend at that time. He said that if you really love me, you will definitely be able to withstand the test and come back to chase me.

I suddenly didn’t know how to answer, and I really wanted to drop my phone.

Finally she said: I admit that I like you the most, but I’m sorry. I still think clearly these days. Although I miss you so much, I still choose him because he loves me more…

It’s all bullshit! I really wanted to say these four words, but I didn’t say them out, so I had no choice but to leave.

Maybe she chose someone who loves her more and can give her a better future. There is nothing wrong with life itself. I don’t blame her. She can only move forward bravely like a river mixed with mud and sand.

I wonder if you have had such an experience?

For example, when choosing a camera, you have obviously chosen this one for a long time, but when you have saved up enough money, you end up buying another one.

In fact, most things in the world are like this.

Men choose women, women choose men.

Marriage is mostly like this.

I went home last year to attend Nicola’s wedding.

Nicola was my front desk in junior high school. I don’t know whether it was because she burned incense at home every day or because the smoke was coming out of her ancestors’ graves, but she was still my front desk in high school.

So I unfortunately became her “best friend”, so I knew her love story of putting a king flower on the cake very well.

When I received the invitation to her wedding, I joked: Didn’t I say that I had to wait for my brother to come home to marry me? I couldn’t wait any longer?

Normally Nicola would have been quarreling with me, but this time she just responded calmly.

Because the groom was introduced by his parents, a senior executive from another unit. According to them, he is down-to-earth and well-matched. The two got married two months after they met.

After the meeting, I felt a little bit frustrated: Have you thought clearly? Marry someone you don’t love.

Nicola smiled lightly and said: Now that I have passed the age of hearing love stories, I just want to find a reliable person to live my life with.

I said: Come on, although we haven’t been childhood sweethearts for so many years, of course, mainly because you can’t catch up, but you can figure out who you like with just your toes.

She continued: Is it useful to say this? Is he worthy?

He was her third boyfriend in her mouth. The two met by chance at Furong Lake in Xiamen University. He accidentally bumped into her and she pushed him into the lake. Afterwards, the two entered various modes of falling in love and killing each other. I originally thought it would be unreasonable for them not to get married.

We drank a lot that night and Nicola went through all the factors that separated us, and they were all the same excuses we all know so well.

In fact, there are so many reasons why we can’t be together. After all, love is no match for not being brave enough.

At the end, Nicola said that he has returned to his hometown and will never come again. He is also tired. Everyone is satisfied with his current husband, and he loves me very much. He is very considerate and buys me a lot of things, and his future life will be very secure.

Although she said it lightly, I could understand her helplessness.

I know many more girls like Nicola. In the end, she chose not the one she loved the most, but the one who loved herself the most, or the one who suited her best.

Was she wrong? I suddenly didn’t know how to scold her.

Maybe this is life, I can only wish her happiness.

Well, it seems a bit negative, and not everyone’s final choice is like this.

I met Rachel at the company’s annual writers’ meeting. She brought a young man with her, and several female classmates screamed. Unexpectedly, she said that the young man was already her husband, and the female classmates were dumbfounded.

Rachel and her husband were classmates in college. At that time, he was the most handsome in the department. The girls who chased him could form an artillery company, and they were all crazier than the aunts who rushed to buy in the supermarket.

Although the competition is huge, Rachel is hopelessly in love with him and will risk her life to catch him.

In view of the many rivals in love, Rachel adopts the policy of “The young master has abused me thousands of times, and I will treat him like my first love.” No matter it’s windy or rainy, no matter thundering or snowing, she will always appear where he needs it most. For example, when he is thirsty while playing basketball and needs water, she will buy mineral water from the ground; for example, if he has a cold or fever, she will dress up as a boy. Rush into the dormitory building to give him medicine; for example, if you forget to bring shower gel in the middle of taking a bath, she will quietly hand over a soap…

But what really impressed him was what happened later. Before graduating from college, Rachel learned that he liked to read novels, so she started writing novels as gifts for him. As she continued to write, she became a writer. It was really inspiring to think about it.

Later, on his birthday, when she handed him the novel, he was still a little hesitant, so she yelled downstairs in the dormitory: Graduation is tomorrow, I like you, will you die if you like me?

At that moment, he seemed to understand that if he didn’t cherish it, he would lose it. He stretched out his hands and hugged her.

After finishing speaking, Rachel still smiled and said to me: Many people are saying that the person you marry must not be the one you love most, but the person who loves you the most. We just don’t believe it, and we just want to prove it to everyone, so we got the certificate last year. get married. And I continue to write novels for my husband. What I want to say is that love requires courage to be together.

Many times, love is not lost to distance or time, but to persistence!

Every brave love is worth encouraging!

Bless you, brave Rachel!

Is the person you end up with the person you love or the person who loves you?

Relationships require management and even more dedication. We always care about every contribution, so many people will make the most conservative choice of “loving themselves the most”.

But looking back, giving is not investment. Investment may have returns, but giving does not ask for return, so many people will choose “the one they love most.”

In the end, it is possible that two people who love each other will enter the wedding hall, which is a good thing; it is also possible that one will reap roses and the other will reap pain. It’s hard to say who is happier. Roses and pain are both indispensable symbols of faith.

Therefore, no matter whether the person who ends up with you loves you or you love someone else, love will always be eternal.