Between husband and wife, “bedhead and bedtail” is a phrase that every couple knows. Becoming a couple is originally a kind of fate, and if you don’t cherish it, emotions will gradually dwindle.
Emotional maintenance relies on two people. When a woman resists married life, what’s the reason? Three 45-year-old women tell the truth.
45-Year-Old Wang
I’ve been married to him for 20 years, and our kids are in college now. We don’t have many worries, but our emotions have always been lukewarm. He’s not a romantic guy and rarely says sweet nothings. Maybe it’s because we’ve been together for too long, so he’s become indifferent.
Although he’s good to me, I’m still a woman who yearns for someone to love me. Whenever we have a problem, he chooses to give me the cold shoulder, which is what I dislike the most. Now, even when we’re lying in the same bed, we hardly have any common language.
Sometimes, we even sleep in separate beds, and we’ve had many fights about this. But for the kids, I’ve chosen to endure. After so many years of marriage, our emotions have already changed, maybe because we’re too familiar with each other.
45-Year-Old Zhang
I’ve been married to my husband for almost 20 years. When we first got married, our emotions were good, but after having kids, our emotions changed dramatically. His family prefers sons over daughters, and I have two girls.
Because of this, my mother-in-law doesn’t like me, and we often fight. But I think having a boy or a girl is the same, so I’ve chosen to endure for the kids.
In this marriage, I’ve suffered a lot, but I don’t have any complaints. Now that the kids are grown, they’re very considerate of me, and seeing this, my heart is actually very comforted.
However, I’ve completely lost feelings for my husband. I’ll never forget what he did to me when I was pregnant. If I had a next life, I wouldn’t choose to marry a man like him.
If it weren’t for the kids, I would’ve left this family long ago. Now my only wish is for the kids to grow up healthy and happy, because I don’t want our mistakes to affect the innocent kids. As for my husband, I’ve lost all expectations, and now I put all my hopes on the kids.
45-Year-Old Yang
My husband and I are in our second marriage. Before we got married, we both had failed marriages, so we cherish each other. After the divorce, he brought a daughter, and for her sake, we didn’t choose to have another child.
They say being a stepmom is tough, and now I truly understand this phrase. Although the child isn’t mine, I’ve never been unfair to her. After getting married, every family has its difficulties.
Sometimes my grievances are hard to express, and because of the child’s issues, we’ve had huge conflicts, and our emotions have cracks. Since it’s a second marriage, we’re also wary of each other in many ways.
I originally thought that choosing a marriage would make me happier, but now I realize that no matter who you marry, you’ll encounter disputes and conflicts. Because of work, he’s rarely at home.
A few days ago, we had a conflict because of the child’s issues, so he took the child away. Now we have no communication.
What does love mean to a woman? Each woman will have a different answer, but I want to say that for a woman, love means being loved and cherished. Women in a relationship don’t want much; they truly care about one thing: a man’s concern and love for them.
In the end, it’s just a matter of a man’s care and love for them. Emotional life is full of frustrations, and sometimes we can’t choose who we meet, but we can choose who we interact with. Find someone who truly loves you, and you’ll have more happiness.
Now, looking back, this phrase is indeed correct. In the emotional world, we’ll have many frustrations. Who wouldn’t want to be loved?
Many couples become strangers after marriage, even when lying in the same bed, each playing with their phones. This lifestyle is originally the stumbling block of married life. When a woman resists being alone with a man, it proves that she’s lost all expectations of him.
So, as a man, you should learn to care more about your wife, and only then will your marital emotions become more harmonious.