A female friend, who is very attractive and has a cheerful personality and high emotional intelligence, has one big wish—to be an ideal homemaker, focusing on raising children rather than working hard for money.
She works a simple cashier job. While many of her colleagues have been promoted, she enjoys a slower pace of life—baking at home, reading a favorite book—just a typical afternoon.
After working for a few years, most of her friends have started dating, getting married, and having children. She has also met some quality men, but they were scared off after realizing they couldn’t fulfill her desire to be a homemaker.
Not all men can meet her wish, especially in this high-pressure life where the future is uncertain. Nowadays, men are too practical and won’t easily say, “I’ll support you.”
She’s been on blind dates, but when men hear about her 3,000 yuan monthly salary and dream of a life of ease, even if they admire her beauty, they understand that investing in youth without effort will lead to failure.
However, she got married at a suitable age to a man with good conditions—a house, a car, and no financial burdens—earning 20,000 yuan monthly. She just doesn’t want a tough and tiring life.
When she talked about her marriage with her husband, he initially questioned her: “You just rely on being pretty. Why do you think you can marry someone like me who makes 20,000 yuan?”
She replied, “In a relationship, both parties seek something. You like my beauty, I want a comfortable life. We both get what we want, and neither loses out.”
Upon hearing her words, he found her straightforward and immediately developed a liking for her, and they started dating.
Although she didn’t want to strive for a career, she didn’t give up on herself. She pursued a quality life, actively learning things she was interested in.
Not fond of working, she managed the house well after marriage. Her leisure activities were diverse—learning languages, baking, running a small online store, doing translation work, and making nearly 20,000 yuan a month.
Her husband felt like he had struck gold by marrying her. She married for comfort, not to rely on him entirely. She was smart in choosing a partner, ensuring a comfortable life.
In relationships, both men and women have certain expectations about each other’s income. Men expect women to contribute to the family’s financial responsibilities, seeking compatibility.
Women seek financial security in a marriage. It’s important to be realistic and practical in marriage, focusing on maintaining it rather than just financial aspects.
My friend who works at a matchmaking company mentioned that men generally expect women’s income to be slightly lower than theirs, while women expect men’s income to be higher.
Men hope women can share the financial burden, aiming for equal footing. Women seek financial security to counter their vulnerable position in marriage.
Life may have its ideals, but reality can be harsh. Marriage involves more than money; it requires effort and care to sustain happiness.
Similar to my friend, we should strive for a fulfilling life within the marriage, not just rely on our partners. It’s essential to build our own lives while enjoying the benefits of a relationship.
Learning from the example of the famous internet celebrity Zhang Zetian, who married a successful man and still pursued her career, women can achieve both personal and professional growth.
Zhang Zetian serves as a role model for women, showing that self-reliance and ambition are crucial even in marriage. Dependence on marriage is unreliable; self-reliance is key.
Each step Zhang Zetian took was calculated. Despite her status and career, she continued to educate herself, setting an example of personal growth and independence.
In relationships, it’s essential to look beyond appearances to find true compatibility. A person’s qualities are what truly matter in a relationship.
Conditions should match, not restrict or demand from others. So, even with a low monthly salary, aiming for a well-rounded partner shouldn’t be a problem.
Men shouldn’t underestimate women with lower incomes just because they earn more. When choosing a partner, focus on their qualities rather than superficial aspects.
In the end, being with someone is about their inner qualities, not just their appearance. Build a relationship based on mutual respect and appreciation.