Some people say that transient joy between men and women is not uncommon, but long-term companionship is truly precious.

Loving someone may be like this: at the beginning, you wish to be with your loved one every minute and even think of them when apart for just a minute. However, love cannot always be filled with freshness and passion. There will always be calm or even cold periods, which can be called the calm period or adjustment period.

During this time, both sides are reacquainting themselves and reevaluating each other. Many relationships slowly change during this period, from previous fondness to dislike, and from passionate love to indifference. The main character who changes might be the man or the woman, or even both realize that the other person is not who they really want.

Perhaps the cruelest part of love is that it’s not a solo performance—it requires interaction. In love, men fear that women may change their minds, while women fear that men may grow tired of them. Today we will discuss the signs when men start to dislike and grow tired of women.

1 Becomes less obedient

In love, men usually see women as someone they need to protect or pamper, so they tend to listen to women and comply with their wishes in many matters.

This is partly to show they cherish her and also a display of their tolerance and magnanimity. However, women should not become arrogant because of this, mistaking these actions as what men should do for them.

Women should understand that men “shrink” and “weaken” in front of women because they love them and are willing to treat them this way.

However, when you find that a man is rude to you, doesn’t listen to you, argues with you, and even starts picking fights with you to express his needs and emotions, it means that he is beginning to dislike and grow tired of you.

His “disobedience” is an outward display of inner resistance.

When a man starts to treat you with resistance, he is actually dissatisfied with you. He can disregard your feelings and freely express his dissatisfaction with you, which only shows that you are not as important to him, and he doesn’t care about you enough to stay because of his dissatisfaction.

2 Starts to nitpick

People in love are drawn to each other because of mutual appreciation and affection. During the passionate period, both parties only see each other’s strengths. Even if they occasionally notice each other’s flaws, they are automatically filtered out in the brain due to the effect of dopamine, or they might not even be shown.

However, if as a woman, you find that a man is nitpicking at your flaws and faults, even criticizing you and pointing out your mistakes, this should be a warning sign for you.

A man does this not only because you did something wrong, but because he is already disgusted and tired of you.

At this point, a man is used to your virtues, but is extremely sensitive to your faults and shortcomings. Whatever you say or do might touch on the nerve of his frustration.

He might openly express his dissatisfaction with you or lecture you, or even lose his temper and vent his frustration. All these actions only indicate that he looks down on you.

3 Runs out of patience with you

When a man cares about you and you mean a lot to him, he is always careful in your presence, afraid of upsetting you, being ignored by you, or being broken up with by you. At this time, a man is as obedient as a cat or a sheep, because he fears you won’t like him or won’t want him.

However, when a man feels that you can’t leave him and realizes that you are dependent on him, there will be a dramatic change in the dynamic between you two.

At this point, he might start to dislike and grow tired of you and won’t worry about you leaving him. This is because he no longer values you as much and is not as attentive to you as before. You have become expendable to him.

At this point, a man is no longer as docile and gentle as before. He will show his true colors and stop controlling or suppressing his emotions. He, who was once patient with you, is now becoming less patient.

He might say you are stupid, tell you that you don’t know how to do things, get angry at you for taking too long to reply to a message, leave if you are ten minutes late for a date, or return the food you ordered because it’s not what he likes.

You will find that he is becoming increasingly irritable and less concerned about your sadness and sorrow. At this point, you don’t need to think much. It’s time to prepare to leave him.

4 Doesn’t want to be close to you anymore

In his work “The 5 Love Languages,” American author Gary Chapman says that physical proximity is a way of expressing love. People who have been in love know that during this time, both men and women show physical signs of affection, such as hugging and kissing.

Physical actions are the most direct and profound way of expressing love, making it easy for the other person to feel loved and cared for.

Similarly, when a man, who once loved you, suddenly refuses to hold your hand or embrace you, or even rejects any form of physical intimacy with you, it means that his feelings for you have changed.

When a person doesn’t want to be physically close to you anymore, he is telling you that these intimate actions are no longer something he wants to share with you. The privileges he once granted you no longer belong to you.

Even if he hasn’t made up his mind to leave you, it at least indicates that he is starting to dislike and grow tired of you, and that you are no longer attractive to him. If a man has reached this point with you, you should consider whether you want to continue the relationship.

Love requires compromise, which is about accepting each other’s flaws and shortcomings. However, everyone has the right to choose in a relationship. When someone is unwilling or unable to tolerate your flaws and faults, he might tell you or express it in his own way.

Sometimes, many things between people don’t necessarily need to be expressed in words. Actions and attitudes themselves are a kind of silent language.

If a man shows these signs to a woman, it means he no longer loves her. When you understand this and feel it, no matter how much you love him, you should seriously reconsider this relationship. When feelings are no longer there or have soured, a dignified breakup sometimes trumps a meaningless insistence.