In the anime Natsume’s Book of Friends, the cat says:
“It’s kinda weird, kinda weird…”
This cat always makes jokes with its owner, and it thinks the owner’s relationship with some women is kinda weird.
Sometimes, the cat is just trying to make fun of its owner. But now, thinking back, the cat seems to understand love pretty well. Sometimes, the relationship between a guy and a girl is really weird. You might not even realize it, but your relationship is already not normal.
Like, when you watch a historical drama, sometimes you don’t know if you like someone, but when you see them with someone else, you feel really bad. You even get jealous. At that moment, you realize you already have feelings for them.
When a guy and a girl are getting along, they need to know their limits. Of course, if you’re both single and don’t have a partner, and you happen to like each other, then if you do these three things, you need to take the chance. Because at this point, your relationship is no longer just friends. You need to strike while the iron is hot.
Holding Hands
When a guy is chasing a girl, he always wants to hold her hand first. Then, he wants to hold her hand and walk with her. Little by little, their relationship gets closer.
If people really love each other, they might want to touch each other. It’s the same for a guy and a girl.
So, if you see two people holding hands, their relationship is not just friends. If they hold hands and tell you they’re just friends, they’re lying.
Since ancient times, Chinese people have an old saying:
“Men and women should not touch each other.”
So, if two people are holding hands, it means they’re starting to become a couple. Sometimes, if they’re still hiding it, it means they’re just trying to flirt or they don’t want to go public. But their relationship is definitely not just friends anymore.
If you already have a partner, you should avoid holding hands with other people. It’s not fair to your partner. It’s also not responsible for your marriage or business relationship.
If you don’t have a partner, and you don’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend, then if you hold hands with someone, you need to be responsible for them. You also need to be responsible for your own love. Since you already held their hand, don’t treat love like a joke.
Spending the Night Together
The final step in a guy and a girl’s relationship is spending the night together, sleeping in the same bed.
I have a friend who had never dated before. She met a guy at work. She liked him, and he liked her too. They started dating, and before they knew it, they were living together.
My friend was a newbie at this, so she didn’t think twice about it. They were living together before they even had a month together. Eventually, everyone knew about it, and they all thought my friend was reckless.
My friend still thought it was okay to live with him. She hadn’t done anything wrong, so she was still confident when talking to people. But she didn’t realize how much it affected a woman. Eventually, almost no one at work dared to talk to her anymore, afraid she’d come onto them.
So, you need to understand that if you spend the night together, your relationship is no longer just friends. And if you’re dating, don’t live together unless you absolutely have to. It’s not good for you, especially for a girl.
There are a lot of uncertain factors in love. Even if you’re close to someone today, you can’t guarantee you’ll still be close tomorrow.
If anything in this world is easy to change, it’s love. Someone who seems like a great partner today might become your enemy tomorrow.
Sometimes, someone is really good to you, but when they’re not, they’re really cruel. You don’t know why someone who used to love you would become like this. Sometimes, you can’t even believe your own intuition or eyes.
So, whether you’re a guy or a girl, you need to be responsible in love. You need to know that if you spend the night together, your relationship is really serious. It’s not just a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. It’s probably on a deeper level.
Going on Dates Alone
In the TV show The Legend of the Condor Heroes, when Bai Feifei is about to die, Zhu Qizhi goes to her side. But Zhu Qizhi’s adoptive father says:
“Give them some time.”
That’s how love is sometimes. You always want to be alone with someone. So, when a guy and a girl’s relationship is getting serious, it’s the beginning of dating.
If you see someone going on dates with someone else, it means their relationship is no longer just friends. If it’s just a casual date, then it’s understandable. It might be for work or an old friend they haven’t seen in years.
But if they go on dates regularly, and they do it secretly, and no matter how busy they are, they always find time to date, and they go to romantic places, it means their relationship isn’t just friends.
When someone falls in love, they have this feeling. They always want to spend time alone with that person. They want to tell them what they’re thinking. Sometimes, they even say sweet nothings.
And sometimes, you’ll find that when someone truly loves someone, they’re afraid of being interrupted. When they’re dating, they don’t want a third wheel. So, they’ll secretly go on dates alone.
When a guy and a girl do these three things, it means their relationship is getting serious. As an adult, you should be responsible for yourself and others. Only then will you find a beautiful love and you won’t hurt anyone, including yourself.