A relationship expert once said, “To see if a man has a woman in his heart, you just need to see if he takes the initiative with her.”

Some say, “Men’s words can deceive.” Sometimes, men say sweet words to women, which can make women feel loved.

Words can deceive, but a man’s initiative, or lack thereof, can express his feelings towards a woman. This cannot be deceived.

Initiating Texts

I have a close friend who deeply loves her boyfriend. She pursued him initially, and that’s how they got together.

When she pursued him, he was indifferent. She thought he would change after they got together.

But recently, she called me and said, “Why is it always me who initiates texts? He never texts me first. If I don’t text him for two or three days, he might not contact me for two or three years.”

If a man loves you, he will text you first. If he never texts you first, you are insignificant to him.

If someone loves another person, not texting them for a day makes them feel uneasy, like they lost something important. Clearly, if my friend doesn’t text her boyfriend for two or three days, he can ignore her for the same duration.

This indicates that this man doesn’t truly love my friend.

Once, a male friend and I went out to eat. While we were eating, he sent a message and a picture of his meal to his girlfriend.

After some time, she hadn’t replied, and he became very anxious.

That’s when I saw what it means to love someone. It’s when I initiate contact with you, and you don’t respond, I become anxious.

Initiating Payment

As the saying goes, “Money talks.” Money is very important to everyone. So, even close relatives keep accounts.

When two people are in a relationship, going out and dining together is romantic, but when it comes to money, it’s complicated.

A friend once told me that if her boyfriend paid for their first meal, she would pay for the next one.

She asked me if this was common. In a relationship, should they split the bill?

In a relationship, splitting the bill is fine, but it should be at the woman’s suggestion.

If a man has you in his heart, he will willingly spend money on you. Every penny spent on you will make him happy.

There’s a saying, “When you truly enter a man’s heart, you’ve got hold of his wallet.”

Talking about money in a relationship is not right, but if a man is reluctant to spend on a woman, it shows his love isn’t sincere.

Some women may feel their men don’t have money, so when they go out, the men are not eager to pay.

But women just want an attitude. Most women don’t necessarily want a man’s money, they want an attitude that shows they are more important than money.

A woman accepting a man’s money is one thing, and a man taking the initiative to pay is another.

If a woman accepts a man’s money, it means she has him in her heart, because many women fear owing a favor to a man they don’t love.

If a man takes the initiative to pay, it means a woman has truly entered his heart, as men consider money important. They are rational and practical.

Initiating Apologies

In love or marriage, there will be some quarrels.

Every time there’s a quarrel, women always hope that men will apologize first, to give in to them.

But many men feel they are not wrong, so why should they apologize first? It would lower their status.

The first person to apologize in a quarrel is not necessarily in the wrong, but is afraid of losing the other person, so they take the initiative to apologize.

If a man never apologizes first in a quarrel and waits for the woman to do so, it shows that he’s not afraid of losing her. When people are angry, they can say and do things they shouldn’t, making it easy for women to propose a breakup when angry.

If a man is afraid of losing a woman, he will definitely apologize first.

Women don’t want to dominate men, nor do they want to be unreasonable. They want men to apologize just to feel that the men have them in their hearts.

If a man truly has a woman in his heart, he will take the initiative in these three aspects. Sometimes, a man’s initiative doesn’t diminish his masculinity; it only proves his love for the woman and his qualities as a good man.