The Buddha said: “Three hundred glances in the past life, only to meet once in this life.”

In life, it’s not easy to meet someone with fate; it’s even harder to meet someone who truly loves you.

Many women think they have met someone who truly loves them, only to find out that their emotions were deceived.

Although emotions are quite subjective, we can’t always rely on them. Sometimes, we need some standards in choosing a partner.

Having your own unique standards will help you find a man who truly loves you.

A man who can grow with you

Marriage requires mutual spiritual growth, and finding a partner who spiritually complements you is important.

Yang Lan once said: “Marriage needs a bond beyond love, not children, not money, but mutual spiritual growth.”

My friend’s aunt once said during a chat: “In one’s life, there is someone they love the most and someone who loves them the most. Eventually, neither of them have a future, and we end up marrying the one who truly suits us.”

It seems that people value the word “suitable” more than love, believing that as long as they are suitable, nothing can come between them.

People change with time, and so do their thoughts. If you find someone who initially seems suitable for you but won’t grow with you, eventually you will grow apart. As the saying goes, you will become familiar strangers to each other.

If a person stays at home all the time without interacting with the outside world, their thoughts will gradually close off, and they will become outdated.

On the other hand, if a person works outside all the time, they will have more exposure to different things and thus become more open-minded.

If two people don’t grow together, they will eventually become unsuitable for each other.

Just like the clothes we wore as children, they fit us well when we were young, but as we grew older, we couldn’t wear them anymore.

So, we not only need to find someone suitable for us, but also someone who can grow with us.

As the famous host Dong Qing once said: “A good marriage is about constantly improving oneself, and then attracting each other. That’s true love.”

Therefore, when choosing a partner, it’s worth finding someone who can grow with you.

Everything in this world requires continuous updating. If one keeps updating while the other doesn’t, there will come a day when you both drift apart.

Human nature is selfish, and it’s not wrong to be selfish. If one day you feel that the other person is no longer the same, don’t blame them blindly. It’s because you both didn’t grow together.

A man who appreciates you

There is an old saying: “Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses.”

And another saying: “When three people walk together, there must be one I can learn from.”

Everyone has their own strengths, everyone is ordinary, but everyone has their shining side.

Finding someone who appreciates you will make you more confident and aware of your strengths.

My cousin and her husband were high school classmates and were very sweet together.

Everyone around thought that her husband loved her, and they were in love.

My cousin’s family conditions were not good, but her husband never looked down on her.

However, last year, they ended up living separately due to certain issues.

During the Chinese New Year, my cousin came to our house and told us that the reason for their separation was because her husband didn’t know how to appreciate her.

Although her husband loved her very much, he felt that she was useless.

He liked to prepare everything for her and arrange her life. In the eyes of others, this was taking care of her.

However, over time, her husband felt that everything she did was wrong, and only his arrangements were right.

As a result, they argued a lot about this, and what was once a good relationship ended in separation.

It’s very important to find someone who appreciates you in life. Everyone is an independent individual and needs to be respected and recognized by others.

Someone who takes care of you very well but doesn’t respect or acknowledge you. Living with such a person will make you feel tired because you feel like you are not being yourself, but merely an accessory to the other person.

This clearly shows how important it is to find someone who appreciates you. They make you feel like yourself, and because you are yourself, they will deeply love you.

A man who can manage his own life

Once while watching a variety show, a relationship expert said: “A man who can’t even manage his own life well is unlikely to treat a woman well. Such a person doesn’t deserve to talk about true love.”

In today’s society, many people are the only child in their families and have been pampered by their parents.

This has resulted in many grown men who don’t know how to take care of themselves and only expect others to take care of them.

They don’t know how to do their own laundry at home, and they don’t know how to dress decently when they go out.

It must be said that such slovenly people who can’t even take care of themselves are not capable of taking care of others.

People who can’t manage their own lives not only lack self-care abilities but also have poor habits.

Being with such a person will definitely lead to arguments every day.

In life, sometimes love is only possible when certain standards are met in some aspects.

To find someone who deeply loves you, you must be clear about what you want and what your standards are before looking for a partner.

By doing so, you won’t worry about not finding a man who truly loves you.